No Kids

jbw1978

I am not inviting children to my wedding.  How do I communicate that?  So far, I've sent out STD's with only the adults names listed on the envelope.  Should I include something on the invitation too? I am worried about hiurting people's feelings if I am not specific.

Shari16

We're not inviting children, but we're not going out of our way to specifically state that. Our invitations will be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. _______ on the outside and inside envelopes. I believe if you were inviting kids the inside envelopes would say Mrs. and Mrs. _______ and family, or their kids names.

Bat937

I put 'adult only reception' on the save the date
I spread it via word of mouth and I put 'adult only reception' on the reception card. 
I felt that I would rather take my chances in 'etiquette hell' then have children at my wedding.  

Make sure all parent's understand that this is a hard rule because people will call, you, your FI, and the parent's to see if they can bring their kids.

mocknine

I think that if you want no kids at the wedding, you need to be blunt about it.  I would do what Bat937 did.  

I had kids at my wedding, but only because they were in the actual ceremony.  My plan was to not have any other kids besides those very few.  I addressed my invitations to "Mr & Mrs....", and I still had people send back their response cards including their children.

Riss91

We wrote out the names of who was invited and said "2 Seats have been reserved in your honor". There was no way they could add-in anyone. Pretty direct, without having to say "adults only".

Here's a link to our RSVP card

MYLOVE315

I did the same thing as Riss91 did on my wedding invitations....and it definitely got accross to those who "assumed" their children were coming that only X amount of seats were reserved. I heard thru the grapevine they got the gist.  :-)

The card read as follows:

M_______________________

_2__ Seats have been reserved for you

___ Accepts with Pleasure

____ Declines with Regrets

Hope this helps.

jbw1978

Thank you all for your advice!

carolsday

I love MYlove315 invitations .  When my cousin got married she did not invite kids .  And EVERYONE knew  . There was 1 family upset , an in law to an in law thought their 10 year old wasn't considered a kid and it was a big all to do and she winded up caving and let her come .  Someone elses' parents showed up with their 3 year old grand kid and was just like .  she wanted to come its not a big deal , she can sit on my lap and eat my food .  talk about insulting .

I have never seen an invite that way i am very impressed and that really avoids all confusion .  Way to go MyLove315

asmaruszewski

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:113Discussion:26ed422e-46f4-4c47-8764-d4c290c3f925Post:462af26a-042e-40c5-9147-f2ff6370b9a0">Re: No Kids</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that if you want no kids at the wedding, you need to be blunt about it.  I would do what Bat937 did.   I had kids at my wedding, but only because they were in the actual ceremony.  My plan was to not have any other kids besides those very few.  I addressed my invitations to "Mr & Mrs....", <strong>and I still had people send back their response cards including their children.
</strong>Posted by mocknine[/QUOTE]

We're having people call and ask if their children can come. And we have to say no.