Did you take his name or....

MYLOVE315

hyphenate it w/ yours?

clarereedy

I may hypenate - I'm still up in the air about this.  After ten years in teaching and since I hold an executive position in our union, I may want to hypenate.  Planning the wedding was easy, it is the decisions like this that are driving me insane!!

Jenni83

I took his name just b/c when we have kids i want us to have a family name.

chrisnjay2010

took his name

Just Jen

I took his name. I'm not a fan of hyphenation -- I'd say change it or keep your own.

kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]I took his name. I'm not a fan of hyphenation -- I'd say change it or keep your own.
Posted by Just Jen[/QUOTE]

Ditto this

Riss91

I took his name, but I have a friend who is a lawyer and she was worried about her professional networking connections being lost, so she kept her name professionally, but changed in legally. So her business cards, her email, etc have her maiden name on them, but everything outside of work is her husband's last name.

ssage

i took his name.  I am not a fan of keeping my naden name and hyphenating in general. exception below.

I do have it hyphenated at work but not officially ... my email is still my maiden name...don't care to change it as to me, it is not a big deal and my paychecks, etc. come under just my married name (no hyphen)...the hyphen is in email siggy and stationary/business cards only.  For what that is worth...but I deal with lots of clients, etc and it was just easier. 

TerriandJoe

Still haven't gotten around to it! But I intend to take his name and keep my maiden as my middle initial.

From what the county clerk's office told me I would have to legally change my name to do that. Like change it once to take his married name and again to "add" my maiden initial back.

I just haven't gotten around to it yet!

Basically go from Terri Jones. Change it legally to my married name of Terri Smith and then I'd have to change it again to legally become Terri J. Smith.

JSweetieXO

I am taking his name.

Siobhan615

Taking his name. That is one the few things FI feel strongly about. And while I will "miss" being my maiden name if we have kids, I want a family name.

rblucy

I took his name.  I really liked my maiden name but felt it was easier and DH felt pretty strongly about it.  I think I would have kept my maiden name if his last name was really long or difficult to pronounce bc my maiden name was so simple.  It was not super common but was a nice strong sounding name.  I still miss it

Nevenag

I took his name, but made my former last name my middle name. So I am using both names without a hyphen. This way legally we have the same last name, but I can still keep using my own last name as well, for as long as I want to. Eventually it might turn into initial or slowly disaper, but I am ok with that. Do, what feels right to you and don't let anyone pressure you. I have a friend who changed her last name after 7yrs of marriage so that's an option too.  

carolsday

I had a friend who changed her name when she got married , but unfortunately years later got divorced .

When she divorced she almost couldn't prove who she was before marriage , 
(in other words it was very difficult) , which is crazy !

It seems changing your name to his last name is quite easy but to reverse it ,( if the need ever arises) , you have to jump through hoops . Makes you think .

I agree with the last post: do what is right for you , don't let anyone pressure you .

smatuza

took his name.  im a teacher and its going to be difficult for others to get used to it and call me by my new name, but all the kids knew i was getting married anyway so we'll see how many times they mess up!

i loved my maiden name and played sports my whole life.  everyone calls me by my last name so it's been a transition!  it was really important to my husband for me to take his name (plus it's a nice italian name, it's pretty!).  when we have kids i want us all to have the same name.

kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]Still haven't gotten around to it! But I intend to take his name and keep my maiden as my middle initial. F<strong>rom what the county clerk's office told me I would have to legally change my name to do that. </strong>Like change it once to take his married name and again to "add" my maiden initial back. I just haven't gotten around to it yet! Basically go from Terri Jones. Change it legally to my married name of Terri Smith and then I'd have to change it again to legally become Terri J. Smith.
Posted by TerriandJoe[/QUOTE]

That's true, you do need a legal name change to do that. That was my friend's plan, to become First MaidenInitial NewLast, and everything went fine at the social security office (her new card said Jane D Jones), but when she got to the dmv they refused to do it because it wasn't on her marriage license that way (since that isn't one of the options). She had to do a legal name change to become Jane D Jones.
That said, I've heard of people being able to do it at the dmv, especially in the city, but it obviously doesn't work for everyone.

Midgette

Took his name  

mrsredmoose

Taking his name.  We did not decide this until we were picking up our marriage license.  I refused to hyphenate, and wanted to keep my name.  At the end of the day it was my choice, but I could see how much it meant to Danny that we share a name. Having the same name as our future children will make things easier down the road.

I am keeping my maiden name at work (just switching it at payroll). 

SandDD

I'll be taking his name for a couple of reasons.  If I hyphenated, by new last name would have 4 s's = ridiculous.  Plus, FI felt pretty strongly about it and I have two brothers to carry on the family name!

I may keep my name for work purposes only because I work in communications and am sending emails constantly.  Although it would be nice if employees couldn't find me for a little bit

probablykate

I'd like to take his name for the same reaon a lot of people gave--having a family name when we had kids. 

I like the idea of keeping my maiden name at my job (since I do have a fair number of networking contacts) but wouldn't that get confusing and messy over time?  (I'm thinking, becoming friends with people you work with, remembering when to use what name, etc)

ssage

ps-i have a friend that has half of her stuff in her maiden name and the rest in her married name and has yet to have any problems.  she has been married for 9 years

MYLOVE315

I think I'll forego hyphenating it...take his name but keep my maiden name @ work and just change it w/ payroll. I'm sure my FI will be fine with that. It would get too confusing but I really do like that idea of people trying to find me and my new name. Well that's my thoughts on this now who knows what I'll do come next May?
Here's to this and many more decisions I have to make. Yeeeesh who knew so much was involved? haha 

Thanks for your feedback ladies.

Kris0816

I am taking his last name, as PP's have stated it was something my FI felt strongly about. Also agree with many as when we have children we want to all have the same last name.