Trying to decide!

Bride2be110511

Hello, as some of you may know, I canceled my wedding a while back! Now I can't decide on what to do. I am torn between having a small ceremony so our close friends and family can be there while we get married, and then taking off on a fabulous honeymoon.... OR just doing a DW altogether. What to do!!! We were thinking of St. Thomas. Any suggestions? I am open to all ideas! Thanks!

Bat937

It's really a personal decision.  I know I could never have gotten married without my family around.  It just wouldn't feel 'real', if that makes sense. 
You and your FI really need to decide what are the important features of a wedding for you and if you will be ok with a DW. 
You could do a DW and invite everyone but you have to understand that they probably won't be able to afford it.

steveandta

I was planning on having a destination wedding, for me that would be my optimal choice. I was all set with an travel agent and quotes and everything but my fiancee sat down with me and expressed his concerns about our close family affording it and his mothers health is not the greatest and was concerned about her traveling. the best choice for both of us was to have a wedding close to home because having our family attending is important to us. my advice is to sit down with your fiancee and do what is best for you both.

Bride2be110511

Thank you for all of your suggestions. We were planning a traditional wedding, but then it got all out of whack! REALLY! I could put the show "Bridezilla's" to shame, by a new show called "Maidzilla's"! Seriously. We are really considering getting married at a small chapel. Its so beautiful and intimate. Then having a car pick is up after the ceremony and dropping us off at the airport, for our honeymoon. I just don't want to leave our guests hanging. Like, "OK we are married now, thanks for coming and see ya later!" My dad says we could always have a reception later on, but I just think its a little weird. I don't know!!! I need a wedding planner! LOL.

I definitely feel like I would like a small ceremony with select people and then a honeymoon. I really want, our parents especially, to see us get married. FMIL has health issues, and my mom is super excited. Plus, because of our previous planning, I already have a dress!! UGH!!! Decisions!!

Thanks again though, for everyone's advice. I really appreciate it!

chrisnjay05212010

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[QUOTE]Thank you for all of your suggestions. We were planning a traditional wedding, but then it got all out of whack! REALLY! I could put the show "Bridezilla's" to shame, by a new show called "Maidzilla's"! Seriously. We are really considering getting married at a small chapel. Its so beautiful and intimate. Then having a car pick is up after the ceremony and dropping us off at the airport, for our honeymoon. I just don't want to leave our guests hanging. Like, "OK we are married now, thanks for coming and see ya later!" My dad says we could always have a reception later on, but I just think its a little weird. I don't know!!! I need a wedding planner! LOL. I definitely feel like I would like a small ceremony with select people and then a honeymoon. I really want, our parents especially, to see us get married. FMIL has health issues, and my mom is super excited. Plus, because of our previous planning, I already have a dress!! UGH!!! Decisions!! Thanks again though, for everyone's advice. I really appreciate it!
Posted by Bride2be110511[/QUOTE]

what if you did the small ceremony earlier during the day and then did a small lunch/dinner with your guests and then went on your honeymoon?  That way you can have family present with you, you wont leave them hanging and then you jet away on your honeymoon that night or early the next morning?

Bat937

I like Chrisnjay's suggestion.  Have a early ceremony and a brunch reception, then you can jet off to your honeymoon.

  I don't like the idea of not feeding the guests, even if it's just cake and coffee in the afternoon.