advice needed

LexiMS

so today we recieved 12 wine glasses from our registry, yay!  Problem is, they are from a college friend who we haven't seen in forever, and isn't currently on the guest list.  FI is more freaked our by this then I am, I say just send a thank you and be done with it.  He thinks we now should invite her.  Opinions?

Arez16

Send a thank you and be done. She might have looked for a registry once she saw you were getting married and wanted to buy you something.

If she hasn't been invited to things thus far, I wouldn't put her on the list just because she gave you a gift. People that come to the wedding don't even always bring gifts. Just tell FI that!

I get how it might feel a little "rude" but it's not like you asked/enticed her to buy a gift! 

LoveAdopted

I would not add her to the guest list now. I don't know if she might have been thinking that she is invited, but she also could have just wanted to give a gift. It's hard to say exactly what she is thinking, of course. Maybe you could send a thank you note and also give her a call to catch up, and also mention that you wish you had enough room on the guest list to invite each and every person you might have wanted to be there.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]so today we recieved 12 wine glasses from our registry, yay!  Problem is, they are from a college friend who we haven't seen in forever, and isn't currently on the guest list.  FI is more freaked our by this then I am, I say just send a thank you and be done with it.  He thinks we now should invite her.  Opinions?
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Honeslty, while this is super generous of her, this is no reason so spread yourself thin invtinng everyone and anyone. A thank you note is perfect.

deborah2121

I agree with PP.  No need to invite--a nice thank you note will suffice. For what it's worth... I have sent gifts to people with whom I was close at one time but wasn't invited to their wedding or baby shower or something.  It made total sense that I wasn't invited to these things btw, but I also wanted to show how happy I was for them.    (However, I typically sent them after the event.)

blinkeysgirl

I'm assuming she might know already that she is not invited to the wedding, because otherwise why would she give you a gift before your wedding or shower.

LexiMS

Thanks Ladies!  The note in the box did say "congrats on your engagement".  I will send a thank you and try to catch up with her.