ring bearer/flower girl

sunflower331

Hi everyone, I know that you don't have to have a ring bearer and/or flower girl in your wedding, but are you finding that the majority of people have them?  I would like to have both, my FI isn't too high on the idea b/c he doesn't want any kids at the wedding.  I told him, that the only kids who would be there are them, we're not allowing guests to bring kids and that the ring bearer and flower girl wouldn't be staying for the whole wedding due to bed times, etc.  In my experience, someone has always either picked the ring bearer/flower girl up and took them home or the parents have taken them home early.....he's just worried that b/c kids are so unpredictable, something may happen....any opinions would be very helpful..thanks in advance

bostonbride214

Obviously they aren't necessary in a WP --- but kids can be unpredictable both at the church and the reception. Honestly, I think you both should agree on this --- b/c having a child / children around does add a different element to a wedding --- think about while you are getting ready, during the ceremony, formal pictures etc.

We had only a flower girl and she was picture perfect at the church and actually for the whole day -- something we didn't expect She was picked up after dinner --- first and foremost b/c of her bedtime but secondly so that her parents could enjoy the reception as they were both part of the WP as well. GL!

Jamps728

We decided not to have a flower girl/ring bearer in our WP.  We didn't have anyone that would be an appropriate flower girl.  I have 2 nephews who could have been ring bearers, but we just didn't want to have to deal with kids and how unpredictable they can be.  That was something that my fiance and I both mutually agreed upon too.  In our opinion, the less stress the better.  My cousin was married last month and her flower girl and ring bearer had a very hard time sitting through the ceremony at the church.  Hope this helps!

Ishaba11

It is definitely up to you. But you certainly dont need them. We are having both and I know they will be there the whole time. RB is my MOH's son and she is a single mom so unless someone comes to get him, he wont be leaving and our FG is his niece and the only babysitter she has is FMIL who will obviously be at the wedding. However, they are both 6 and can follow direction so it wont be as bad as like a 3 year old (at least I really hope not)