Ugh, I am so frustrated with this situation, and I'm not sure that anyone is being unreasonable as I see both sides of the argument here. Our wedding is scheduled for July 2010. My fiance's grandfather just found out that he is in the beginning stages of kidney failure and will need to go on dialysis. They don't know how well that is going to work. My fiance's family is very close knit, and asked us if we would consider moving the wedding up. I think this is a perfectly reasonable request, both our venue and photographer are willing to accommodate this change (they are the only vendors we've booked so far). We were thinking New Year's Eve would be a good date.Well, I mentioned this to my mother today and she is just not willing to go along with this (she is not paying for the wedding). She thinks that his family is being unreasonable because my family has to travel from PA to Boston and this won't give them enough time to plan. I see her side as well, people were planning to come in the summer, not this winter. Also, nothing is definite with his grandfather. He could still be around in July or he could not be around in December. We haven't sent out save the dates yet, so that's not an issue. I also suggested a compromise where we have the New Year's Eve wedding, whoever can come will come, then have another party in July for those who couldn't make the trip, but apparently that's no good either because "people are excited to come to Boston."Ugh! Why can't someone just be willing to compromise? I see both sides of the argument here, but someone's gotta give (and I think it may be my mother!).