Grandparents in program?

erilouboston

I'm clueless on this one - do you have to include the grandparents in the program? Is there an etiquette rule about it? I don't have the room right now (can't add pages, it's all folded together... long story), and we have a ton of grandparents (parents are all divorced/remarried and we're close to all of them) - so it'd have to be an all or nothing deal. I guess I could cut out our thank you note... boo... Thoughts?

LucyD1029

Are they walking down the aisle?  We included my grandmother in the program, but she was part of the processional.

Shazzie116

It took a lot of reformatting but we're including ours. We only have grandmothers to list, so I suppose it's a little easier. I imagine they would be honored to be included in the program. Is there any way of doing a small insert?

erilouboston

My programs are accordions - so it's a legal sized sheet folded four times - so can't do an insert. We would have to list 10 grandparents (with a couple of the grandfathers listed as "the late"). Basically, I have to scrap my program and do something totally different - which I'll do - if this is some requirement I need to fulfill! As for walking in the processional - that's up for debate right now. Our ceremony is outside, on a lawn, with uneven ground. I'm more inclined to have them all sit as soon as they arrive and be comfortable, then drag my 83 year old nana down stairs and across the lawn... but, we haven't decided yet - we'll probably talk to all of them and see what they want to do... Sorry, I'm hating this part of the planning process!

Ainslie325

Included both FI's grandfather and my grandmother in the program. Even though she is unable to attend for health reasons, FI's grandmother is listed as well (for me, it wasn't about physical presence, but honoring those who have been significant to us as we grew to adulthood). The memorial arrangement on the altar will be in memory of our grandparents who have passed away, and their names are listed on the backpage of the program (where we explain the floral arrangement and its significance).

EKobrenski

Eri, idk about the programs, but I think we're going to have them all be seated by a groomsman right before the mothers, instead of making the processional even longer.  I guess it's splitting hairs, but my grandfather said he doesn't want to feel rushed lol.

evseidl

didn't include them.  They aren't apart of our processional either for health reasons. I don't think you HAVE to do it either, it's just something nice to add if they were really apart of the wedding and not just guests to the wedding.  I can't WAIT to see these programs!

erilouboston

Kobs & Evs - we have some health concerns with them as well, a couple aren't attending because of it. With my family, it's just all or nothing - I can't include some and not others. Bah. I think I may leave them off. We're giving the grandmothers flowers, and I'm doing memorial candles for the fireplace inside for those who have passed. I've just got this designer in me who is kicking and screaming about messing up my perfect program layout by adding names, and a loving granddaughter in me slapping the designer, they are really duking it out... I just wasn't sure if there was some solid etiquette that made the decision for me.

tiffspff

We're not including ours. They are also not a part of the processional. They are going to be seated with everyone else (mostly because my grandmother threw a fit at my cousin's wedding, and nobody wants a repeat.) We do have a video that will run during coctail hour, that has pictures of all grandparents, including those who are no longer with us. That is how we choose to honor our grandparents.

erilouboston

Tiff - thanks! So what I'm getting is there is no etiquette rule carved in a stone somewhere that I'll be violating by not including them? I think I'm going to ask some moms for advice, out of the 4 of them, someone should be able to help me!