Age Poll

MeaghanandMichael

this was partially done over on P&E and it got me interested in your answers :)1) How old are you2) How old is FI/DH3) How old were you when you knew he was the one4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have5) How old were you when you got engaged6) How old were you/will you be when you get married7) How old were you/will you be when you have your first childAnd the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way.

GardenBryd

1) How old are you=28 2) How old is FI/DH=293) How old were you when you knew he was the one=204) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have=STILL don't live together, ha (I'm in NYC--he's in Providence doing his surgery residency. He'll be there for 6 years, so have to move soon!)5) How old were you when you got engaged=286) How old were you/will you be when you get married=287) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child=No idea, but I definitely want to enjoy being married without kids--maybe 33/4?

MeaghanandMichael

1) How old are you 242) How old is FI/DH 243) How old were you when you knew he was the one 214) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have 225) How old were you when you got engaged 226) How old were you/will you be when you get married 237) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child 28/29And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. I judge some one who doesn't have the means to support themselves in any way but wants to get married (high school, some college) but it doesn't matter what age they are as much as it is pretty unrealistic of them.

kmt_cas

1) How old are you - 262) How old is FI/DH - 233) How old were you when you knew he was the one - 234) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - we don't live together5) How old were you when you got engaged - 256) How old were you/will you be when you get married - 267) How old were you/will you be when you have your first  child - between 30-32 hopefullyThe only time I really judge is if someone is constantly defending their age saying they are mature enough to get married.  I really feel that if you need to do that, you aren't ready.

mvkc

1) How old are you - 262) How old is FI/DH - 273) How old were you when you knew he was the one - 204) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - 245) How old were you when you got engaged - 256) How old were you/will you be when you get married - got married at 257) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child - 29 or 30...like pp said we want a few years to ourselves before babiesAnd the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way - Age does not matter to me

Knottie6cd98948dcce890b

) How old are you - 232) How old is FI/DH - 29 3) How old were you when you knew he was the one - 234) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - 24 5) How old were you when you got engaged - 24 6) How old were you/will you be when you get married - 267) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child - who knows I don't think age and time matter - if you love your FI and know you want to spend the rest of you life with them, whats the wait

Shazzie116

1) How old are you - 25 (26 next week!) 2) How old is FI/DH - 25 3) How old were you when you knew he was the one - 19ish 4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - 24 5) How old were you when you got engaged - 24 6) How old were you/will you be when you get married - 26 7) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child - hoping to have our first around 28 And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. Not really. I have met incredibly mature 22 year olds and incredibly immature 30 year olds. Everyone is different and ready for things at different times in their lives. I agree with Meaghan though, I worry when I see starry-eyed couples still in high school or college. I was that starry-eyed college girl who wanted to be engaged before graduating and move right in together. I'm glad we decided to wait, establish jobs and live on our own because it worked out better for us as a couple in the long run to have that time to grow independently.

GardenBryd

Judgement: I do judge a bit when people say they want to get married or have kids young.

bettybeantown

1) How old are you? 262) How old is FI/DH? 273) How old were you when you knew he was the one? 224) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have? 255) How old were you when you got engaged? 266) How old were you/will you be when you get married? 277) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child? probably 30And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. No, I think it's a personal thing.

clbartnicki

1) How old are you- 282) How old is FI/DH- 28 (turing 29...)3) How old were you when you knew he was the one-254) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have- 265) How old were you when you got engaged- 276) How old were you/will you be when you get married- 287) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child- hoping to be 30And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. I would say no, unless the bride/groom are very young (like under 21...)

jessandjay09

1) How old are you- 232) How old is FI/DH- 273) How old were you when you knew he was the one- 204) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have-225) How old were you when you got engaged-216) How old were you/will you be when you get married-237) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child- 29/30And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way.Ditto Meaghan and Shazzie

MeaghanandMichael

Shazz - my birthday is next week too!! Mine is the 30th Yours?

LexiMS

1) How old are you-252) How old is FI/DH-25 (almost 26)3) How old were you when you knew he was the one-214) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have-225) How old were you when you got engaged-246) How old were you/will you be when you get married-257) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child-hopefully 27-28I don't really think age matters that much--We have experienced a lot and have been happily together through 4 years and 3 states!  I certainly don't judge others based on what age they do things-both my parents (divorced) got engaged around the same time I did!

foolforfood

1) How old are you almost 292) How old is FI/DH turning 28 soon3) How old were you when you knew he was the one tough one4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have 255) How old were you when you got engaged 256) How old were you/will you be when you get married married 3 months ago7) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child we'll TTC in the next 2-3 yearsAnd the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. No judgement unless it's an Anna Nicole Smith type affair.  If you're a 20something and there's more than a 15 year age gap between you and your SO, I question the motives.  I'm also surprised that some couples get hitched without having the experience of living together.  I learned so much about DH (and our relationship) during those first few months. 

LexiMS

that last sentence is confusing--what I mean is My Mom is currently engaged, and so is my Dad!  We are a wedding family!

sprinkles2003

1) How old are you: 29 next month2) How old is FI/DH: 29 next month3) How old were you when you knew he was the one Hmm 19 and then again around 26 (dated in college, split, got back together 4 years ago)4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have 275) How old were you when you got engaged 286) How old were you/will you be when you get married 297) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child Hmmm 33ish?I dont think age is as big a deal as experience.  As long as you've had a chance to develop enough as an individual and explore who makes a good partner for you, that can happen in your early 20s, late 20s, or any time. Depends on the person.

sunshine1084

1) How old are you: 242) How old is FI/DH: 253) How old were you when you knew he was the one: 214) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have:225) How old were you when you got engaged:246) How old were you/will you be when you get married:257) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child: I'll go ahead and say 28And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way. I don't judge people based on age, I do however judge based on maturity.

GardenBryd

Foolfor: In terms of living together (for us), I technically did live with FI for about a year when I moved to NYC--sort of crashed with him. Also, we basically lived together in college. I definitely learned everything I needed to with 8 years many, many, many hours together, ha. I agree that it's important to live together in some capacity--or at least spend significant time with the person--before getting married (and I think most important in that is dating for a significant amount of time, which we definitely did, ha). I will say, though, I am really, really excited to "officially" live together for the first time as husband and wife (whenever I move, ha). Was talking recently to a friend who got married after livnig together and I asked her how it was now that she was married. She responded: "the same." I'm sure it's not that way for everyone--and better than getting divorced because you can't handle his level of cleaniness, etc.--but I am just excited about the choice I made for myself. 

Future Mrs. Pase

1) How old are you - 262) How old is FI/DH - 293) How old were you when you knew he was the one - 244) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - 255) How old were you when you got engaged - 256) How old were you/will you be when you get married - 277) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child - We'll see!  Probably around 29/30And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way.No, age does not matter to me in any of these things.  Things happen for people at certain times for certain reasons.  I only judge if someone is doing something for the wrong reasons or intentions.

foolforfood

Gardenbryd - I didn't mean to be preachy, sorry! Your timeline actually mirrors mine.  We basically met in undergrad and we were fortunate to fulfill our grad programs in the same city.  DH just started residency, and although we live together, we barely see each other.  It's touch being married to a resident and I cannot wait until his training is over.  That's why we're on a 2-3 year TTC track. I told him there's no way I'm raising a kid on my own.

AlwaysABridesmaid...

1) How old are you 252) How old is FI/DH  30 in 3 days!! 3) How old were you when you knew he was the one 204) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have  215) How old were you when you got engaged  246) How old were you/will you be when you get married 267) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child Hopefully 28And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way.  No

GardenBryd

No, no, I was the one who was preachy! I get the question a lot from my friends (though my Catholic family of course LOVES that we didn't live together--but it wasn't for religious reasons) so I've probably gotten defensive! Married to a resident, too? Nuts--we really do have parallel situations, except that I'm not in the same city as he (as I mentioned)--because there's no book publishing in Providence. Anyway, I hear you--it's tough. I am getting to the point, though, where seeing him for even 5 minutes a day when he's half-dead is better than not seeing him at all. Bleh. Hope your FI's course isn't too long (too many years)!

coreywalk

1) How old are you: 232) How old is FI/DH: 233) How old were you when you knew he was the one: 194) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have: 225) How old were you when you got engaged: 236) How old were you/will you be when you get married: 247) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child: at least 30And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above?  I thought it did for a long time.  We have been together for 6 years and purchased a condo in January, but I still felt people would think we were "too young" to get married.  Once I put others opinions aside, I realized that the age doesn't matter as long as you are truly in love and mature enough to make this type of commitment.

jenvalet

Dude, I'z old, that's all. 

tiana531

1) How old are you - 222) How old is FI/DH- 243) How old were you when you knew he was the one- 194) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have - 215) How old were you when you got engaged- 216) How old were you/will you be when you get married - 22 (but 2 weeks before 23rd bday)7) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child - 25-27i agree with most girls and dont judge based on age since I am young, but each couple moves at their own pace. however I do think that people should at least be allowed to drink at their own wedding, just my opnioin tho.

freckles79964

1) How old are you: will be 26 in two weeks2) How old is FI/DH: 243) How old were you when you knew he was the one: 244) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have: 245) How old were you when you got engaged: 256) How old were you/will you be when you get married: 267) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child: 29/30?Honestly, I judge anyone under the age of 21 getting married. Who wants to be underage and not able to legally sip the champagne on their wedding day? I guess my exception to this is if you're pregnant, otherwise I don't see any reason not to wait until you can get your own beer.

killian09

Gardenbryd & foolforfood: Definitely sympathize with the resident-husband!  Mine is an intern.  He logged 98 hours last week.  ugh! He's got a 7 year program though.  Here's to hoping it gets better!  And, I am very thankful that we live together, in the same city.1) How old are you? 242) How old is FI/DH? 263) How old were you when you knew he was the one?  hmm... no distinct moment.  Maybe around 21. (We've been dating since I was 17!)4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have? 215) How old were you when you got engaged? 236) How old were you/will you be when you get married? 247) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child?  I don't know... let's not jump the gun.    Like fool, I'm definitely waiting for my husband to have some time at home before even thinking about it.

decka1121

1) How old are you: 21 2) How old is FI/DH: 30 3) How old were you when you knew he was the one: 19 4) How old were you when you moved in together, if you have: When I was 18 5) How old were you when you got engaged: 21 6) How old were you/will you be when you get married: 23 7) How old were you/will you be when you have your first child: I'd like to be between 25-27 And the big one: Does age matter to you in any of these questions above? As in, do you judge some one by the age they do these things in any way: Well, yes and no. I can't help but judge sometimes, but a lot of times I don't think it's with age. There are plenty of people I know that are older than me that I know are not ready for such a commitment. Maturity levels differ. My FH is a lot older than me, but we never notice it. Our maturity levels are both around the 26/27 age level. Some say that I'm too young, but it's just a number. To be quite honest I"m finishing up college in a few months, already own a home with my FH and have kept a steady job for 9 years. We're secure financially and are both physically, financially and emotionally ready and excited for this. It's our time

Ainslie325

1) I am 30 2) Fiance is 29 3) I was 28 when I realized he was the one. 5) Engaged at 29. 6) I'll be 30 when we get married. 7) First child? Not sure. 32? 33? I will admit that because of my own life experience, I tend to question the wisdom of marrying young. I would not have been ready at 22, 23, 24. If I'd have gotten married at that age, I would have been very unhappy (both because I wouldn't have been with the right person and because I had a lot of growing up to do myself). I realize that not everyone is like me (the struggling gread student through my twenties), so I realize this may be a little judgmental. Also, I always thought I would have been married and having children at a younger age; I'm so glad I wasn't/didn't. This feels perfect.

GardenBryd

Killian, ugh, sorry, stinks doesn't it? (And with healthcare reform, let's hope it gets better, not worse.) I am glad you like being in the same city--for now, I am kind of liking avoiding the stress of waiting for him each night, ha! But since he'll be doing residency for 6 years--definitely going to have to experience many years of that!

jhdance111

1. 29 2. 29 3. 25/26 4. 26 5. 27, almost 28 6. we got married when we were 28...2 weeks before our 29th bday 7. probably 30. No.