Rsvp drama

mrsandmrsbins

So very early on one of our old friends from high school sent in her yes RSVP. We were so excited because she lives far away and it would be a long trip for her. So today she was talking to FI online saying she has to find a flight and hotel and request time off for the wedding, and as long as it doesn't get too expensive she'll still be coming,and she hopes she'll be able to make it..... I was like, ummm. The wedding is in four weeks. You told us you were coming two months ago, but that was just an "I want to come, but might not really come" RSVP?!?!?! Now do I have to call all the yes people along with the no replies to find out if they are really coming? Ugh

EKobrenski

Willing to be she's not maarried? Ugh. Btw, idk if you will find this funny but on yesterday's office, Pam had similar RSVP conversations with people. "I'll def try to stop by." "It's 75 a plate, so you'l def come or you won't?" "Yeah I'll be there". 'Ok glad you're coming." 'Yup, I'll prob be there..." I'm paraphrasing but it was cute.

mrsandmrsbins

yes! I saw that, it's exactly how I feel.

jwatts23

it's so crazy what people come up with! We have heard the "they should be there...but if not, then we will just fill them in with someone else" Just ask her to clarify. A lot of our friends have done this and we just asked them nicely to give us an answer as soon as possible. Don't worry- it all works out!

2dBride

Yeah, I've got one RSVP that says, "I don't know if [husband] will be able to make it, but I will certainly be there for a little bit!"  Ok, husband lives in her house; can't she ask him whether he is coming?  And how long is "a little bit"?And then there was the couple who asked if they could add a plus 1 (friend).  We said yes.  Next thing we knew, they were writing to say they wouldn't be there at all, because they were taking the friend to a different wedding in Philadelphia.Oh, and the friend who said, "XYZ sent an RSVP for her and her SO, but SO won't be able to be there, so can I bring my SO instead?"  Umm, was XYZ going to tell us her SO wasn't coming?This is our wedding, which is rather a big deal for us.  Is it so much to ask that people tell us definitely a month before whether they will be there, and stick to it?

tiffspff

I had 4 people cancel on me within the last 2 days before my wedding. I had a slight meltdown as a consequence. Hopefully you don't let it hit you that hard. When it comes right down to it... it's not that big a deal. It's just really rude and frustrating.