Nerves Before The Big Day??

jwatts23

We are 9 days away and I have to say suddenly my nerves have really started to kick in!!  I'm calm (well as calm as I can be) but my stomach is in knots! All the sudden I don't really want to eat and I'm nauseous- anyone else experience this??  I'm not throwing up, but just nervous butterflies! And I swear, if I tell one more person (mainly guys) and they ask if I'm prego I'm going to scream! ; )

erilouboston

That's why they invented xanax I'm sure you aren't alone in this! leah6180 and I were out the other night dishing about our weddings and in the middle of the convo, when we were talking about actually being brides and standing up there to say our vows, my stomach started doing flip flops over the Pad Thai in my tummy! It's surreal, right?

jwatts23

it really is! I just guess I never expected to feel like this! It's just such a weird feeling! And it's so hard to describe because I'm just so excited and ready for it to all start that I can this feeling in my stomach you can't even describe!  I think I may call my Dr. just for a little help ; )

MDalto421

I was honestly ok until, like, 20 minutes before we got to the venue.  Of course, our limo arrived 20 minutes early and we were just driving around to kill time...

spuccio

I felt SOOOO sick in the days leading up to mine. Even when I got mentally calm, or was laughing and having fun, my stomach was still unhappy. I barely ate anything on Thursday or Friday. I enjoyed my dinner on Saturday, but at the Sunday brunch I seriously had the biggest appetite of my life. I ate about three plates of food! LOL! Not sure if it was a release of stress, or the cumulative effect of a year of dieting, but I ate like I had never ate before :-)

LucyD1029

I was totally fine until like an hour before the ceremony.  In fact, I think I GAINED weight before my wedding, because I kept eating!

evseidl

I drank myself stupid to forget about the nerves.  Blacking out is my body's defence against worrying too much while drinking. In all honesty-- keeping myself busy was the key factor for me.  And by busy, i don't mean with wedding stuff-- with other stuff.  Maybe cleaning.  I played with big A (atticus) and the bridesmaids.  And if ONE more person asked me a question with a TOTALY obvious answer, I was going to commit a homicide (no lie, the MOH kept asking the dumbest questions, like 'will they have time to change between the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner?') My answer to everything: "I just don't care. Do whatever you want. Rehearsal is at 6:30, dinner at 7:30, wedding the next day at 4pm.  be there."Be happy---  thank goodness someone posted videos of the wedding on facebook, I nearly forgot everything right after (blackout mode kicked in).

jwatts23

hahaha evs you kill me!When I'm not thinking about the wedding and am busy I'm pretty ok.  But the minute I think about it, the knot and feeling just kicks in!!  I guess just no one tells you this.  I was starting to think something was wrong with me!and I'm so past the point of having any coping skills!  I'm trying to be nice about dumb questions but I just can't handle them anymore!

jwatts23

and I'm glad you girls are feeling/have felt the same as me!  It's comforting to know I'm not alone!

Eamm4884

I'm getting married on the 10th too, and I feel like its weird that I'm not nervous at all. I just want it to hurry up and get here, we have nothing left to do so I can't busy myself with wedding prep. I think I'll be nervous right before we walk down the aisle because I hate when all eyes are on me, but other than that I am ok. Maybe there is something wrong with me?

evseidl

eamm is taking my route-- drinking right?

Eamm4884

Evs, I think a couple glasses of champagne before wouldn't hurt, right?

jwatts23

couple? I'm pounding a bottle!  The way these nerves are I need some majoorrrr relaxation ; )

Shazzie116

God, I'm 3.5 months out and have butterflies, and I know it's going to get worse because we'll have the holidays right before and I know our families and friends will be all up in our grills. TGFW (Thank God For Wine). I have b-pics in a month and I think right now that is more frightening to me anything.

evseidl

eamm-- listen here little lady, that is PERFECT! My DH bought us 8 bottles of champagne for the morning of-- you know, to take with us to the hair salon.  There were... ehh, about 7 girls and my mom.  thats 1 bottle per person. I won't go into too many details, but lets just say at one point in the morning before lunch (of COURSE we drank before eating ANYTHING) we were doing yoga outside on the grass on rt 17 in waltham.  Me in white yoga pants and my bride jacket, WITH a bottle in my hand.  Downdog was hard.     

jwatts23

evs, I love it!  I plan to be doing somewhat the same (maybe minus yoga) and probably screaming "don't judge me!" as I start to drink at 9:00 am.  Hellooo mimosas!  

andria5

I hear ya, I have been anxious every day and worrying about nothing and everything, stomach in knots, I had my first freak out on FI the other night saying why are we having a big wedding when we don't like all the attention on us, the wedding sort of took on a life of its own. But i am sure it is worth it when its all over and told the Jp all we want to say is I do, i dont think i will be able to repeat after her. ha ha thanks ladies for all your support and good luck to everyone on the big day!

foolforfood

I turned into a complete wreck at T minus 4 days.  I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I was super cranky.  I had tons of last minute things to take care - the ceremony programs almost killed me.I had huge butterflies in the stomach during the rehearsal and for half of the wedding.  Alcohol w/o food does not work for me at all.  I forgot this and has a whiskey sour and my belly hated me for it.  I finally calmed down during the reception.  I dont' have much advice, but I will say that your adrenaline will kick in and all your nerves will go to the wayside when it counts.

Brads Girl

Up until yesterday, I ate like a pig.....food is my stress coping mechanism.....then yesterday something just snapped in me and now I am starving but all food makes me nauseas UGH!

Eamm4884

Evs you are too funny, maybe I should try some yoga that day too it sounds like a really good idea.

valpag

i had a very bad nervous stomache the day before the wedding and was very sick. The day of I was to afraid to eat anything so I just had a few bites of a bagel. by the time i got to the church and got to the alter I thought i was going to be sick. The entire cereomny I was taking to my husband telling him How awful I felt and thought I was going to get sick. Luckily I did not get sick and ceremony was over in 20 minutes! I feel like I missed the entire ceremony becuase I was not really paying attention becuase I felt so sick. If I could do it over again I would of taken a 1/2 a aniexty pill to calm my nerves.

snoopy3319

I think I'm one of the lucky ones. We both knew that getting married really wasn't going to change anything, so I was super calm for all of it. I actually hated being engaged, so the wedding was a huge release for me. My BM and MOH were actually mad that I never got super excited. I slept well the night before and didn't cry except for a sniffle on the way down the aisle. I think that was just the stress releasing finally. The best part was after the wedding when we snuck home for a while to just be alone for once in those few days of family everywhere. We just couldn't believe we were married. No nerves or sickness, though, but I don't think it's uncommon.

choppinbroccoli22

I'm a date twin with you. I take hot baths because of the shivers, I'm eating things I don't normally eat in order to stop losing weight... I was up at 2am yesterday with a bazillion things on my mind and at 4am decided to stop trying to fall back asleep and came in to work... I'm so happy, but yes, my body is all keyed up!