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anyalee

Dear RSVP Gods;  I really need no's!  I've been a good, non-bridezillaish bride (for the most part) and I need you to send me no's.  Please!  Bless me with no's!                             Thank you!                              AnyaYou're turn.....

kelmarfar

Dear FI, Please quit your b!tching about how much this wedding is costing us. Since we're having such a lousy turnout, it's costing us less than it was originally going to. And, while you're at it, you can quit reminding me that the reason that the turnout is so poor is because my family sucks. I already feel crappy enough about the lack of enthusiasm about our wedding from them. I don't need you to rub it in.

mrogaleski

Dear Mother Nature, Thanks for making it pour on my wedding day. Is it possible to have some sunshine for my honeymoon? Marie

hbyrne31

Dear Future Sister In Laws, Did anyone torture you so much when you were planning your wedding? If not, then why do you insist on torturing me. I am the bride so I do get to pick my colors, dresses, flowers, DJ, cake etc. Let me have my day!

Knottie6cd98948dcce890b

Dear FI -        Stop blowing $300 dollars at a bar with "the boys" while I'm saving pennies for the house, the wedding and the all those kids you keep talking about.Love, You're very overworked and stressed fiance.

junelley

Dear (certain) vendors:Please respond to my emails in timely fashion. I do like your work and would like to work with you for my wedding, but please don't make me feel uneasy because it takes FOREVER for you to reply to my emails.  I really don't want to cross your name off my potential vendor list.  Antsy in MA,junelley

coppolafamily

Anyalee- we are totally on the same page. When is your rsvp date?  Ours was Wednesday and we are still waiting on 13 which we hope are no's.  We have gotten way more yes's than we ever expected, hoped to pay for and we are almost at full capacity-I think we are screwed! Dear FMIL, please leave my soon to be husband alone about where people are sitting, we are taking care of it.  Dear Mom, please get more involved. Dear Hips, please shrink..kthankyouverymuch

Shazzie116

Dear Sweet Sister and Matron of Honor, I know you're looking for a job and have a house and 2 kids and a lab puppy, but you committed to being in the wedding 11 months ago, so will you please order your damn dress already? You already picked it and mom is helping you pay, so I really don't understand the hold up. Nudity is not an option at my wedding. Love, You're Little Bridezilla of a Sister

cazzysmith

Dear me,Why did you have to total your car a month before the wedding and add the stress of replacing it to the stress of wedding prep?  Not good!

terrax82

Dear my and FI's extended family - I understand that driving a whole 4.5 hours in a straight line along 90East to come to the big bad city puts you way out of your comfort zone, but please don't leave my RSVPs sitting on the counter for the next three weeks while you debate about it.  You got save the dates three months ago, you know you're not going to come, please send me the card.  I even included postage for you and really do not want to have to call each of you.  (And if you want to throw a small donation in the envelope it would certainly be appreciated!)

Wishin986

Dear Motivation, At some point I would really love it if you could kick in.  I know it is Friday but still have to get through the work day.  Step it up a notch.  Perez Hilton and Facebook are really not necessary distractions right now. Best,Stacy

AlwaysABridesmaid...

oooh I love these!Dear Money,Please start accumilating in my bank account. I have a wedding to pay for.Dear Dr.,Please stop prescribing me outrageously expensive meds for my allergies and making me come into the office 100 times and pay a co-pay. I'm saving for a wedding you know.Dear FIL's,Enough with the drama already!

erilouboston

Anya & coppola - we're sharing a boat! We got way more yes's then we thought we would too! I'm happy people want to come, but at the same time, I feel like a couple of these folks are going to back out last minute and really don't want to pay for air to come to my wedding...

choppinbroccoli22

Dear tape worm, If the 5 pounds you stole off my body since my final dress fitting makes my dress fall off tomorrow, I will kill you. Dear FMIL, please don't try to run the rehearsal tonight. Dear florist, Thank you for changing the orchids to roses in our mothers' corsages, even after I said I trusted your choice. Your tip just went up.

coppolafamily

Erilou- glad we aren't alone in our little boat, ugh! We invited enough people to fill the room and figured oh well the 20 to 30% people say wont show so we are all set. Now every aunt, uncle, cousin, etc. is all about it. Even people who verbally told us no, sent yes's and changed plans to be able to be with us. I am flattered and thankful but it just wasnt at ALL what we were expecting. Thankfully we have enough money to pay for everyone, but we were hoping that money could be used elsewhere. And I too feel like s few of our elderly people and some random cousins are going to back out last minute-so air will be eating our 5 course meal!  

kelmarfar

Terrax82, you just made me laugh. I was saying the same thing to all of my relatives who are hemming and hawing about driving here from Central NY. Where is your family coming from? My relatives are in Syracuse and you would think that I asked them to journey to the center of the Earth to come to my wedding. Needless to say, many of them are not.

anyalee

Coppola & Erilou- Ahhhh!  My venue kept insisted that around 20% would decline.  So our list was 154 and we budgeted for 120-130.  Well I changed jobs...to a place I used to work at so I had to invite 6 more girls from work (without dates).  That brought us up to 161.  And now we're getting all these yes's and people adding on guests.  And on top of it way more people are getting the beef dish than expected...which is $10 more than the chicken.  We were all happy before because we managed to come up with all the cash we need for our 130 people.  But each person over that is going to cost us $80 each.  Luckily my mother (who is already spending a fortune on the wedding...and his parents nothing..but that's another story) said she will loan us whatever amount we need that we go over.  That makes us feel better but we were hoping to not go into any debt over the wedding.  Coppola, what is the max capacity at your site?

anyalee

and....I know a few couples will not show up too.  FI already said he'd be pissed if that happened.  I told him it will so be prepared.

coppolafamily

Anyalee- I know, we were told the same thing by friends and our venue about the % that decline. And with the economy the way that it is we thought for sure we would be fine- we are at 142 right now though. Our venue max is 150, we invited 167 (idiots!!!)  Still waiting on 13 rsvps.. so really nervous! We have had 5 no's.. who has 5 NO'S!????? My FI got a second job to pay for our wedding and I am thanking him so much right now otherwise we would be panicked since we are paying ourselves.  And really, I may end up being a bridezilla if I see empty chairs after all this..! What is your venue max?

Eamm4884

I can relate to guest list drama, we prob only had 10 no's, far less than expected. And we have already had 3 people call in the last two days that they will not be able to attend. I guess you can't plan for the flu or pneumonia.

anyalee

Our capacity is something like 200.  So I'm not worried about that at all!  It's just the budget.  FI also picked up an extra per deim job to help pay for the wedding.  I actually just went with my mom to her 2nd dress fitting and she handed me a check for 1k and said to just pay her after the wedding.  So now we're fine..weew

erilouboston

Anya & Coppola - we only have about 5 no's too! Not counting the list of people who gave us a no before invites went out (but they were family so we sent invites anyways, and when invites came one changed to a yes!). Wow, you guys have bigger lists than us! We're really only supposed to have 80 in our room, we were pushing it by wanting 100, which is why we're doing the cocktail reception to fit everyone (we got 200 in that room once for a charity event but it was like sardines). We invited 118, and the coordinator (I work at our venue) was convinced only 80 people would show and kept giving me prices based on 80. It was annoying because I knew for sure we'd at least hit 100, so I had her re-running numbers. Well, we are now around 110 and still waiting on a couple people! Like you girls, I'm not worried about the extra money - it's just the space. We also were really hoping on some no's so we could invite even more friends - but we just really don't have the physical space right now, boo!