Registry Items: Return or keep?

jessla

So I'm a vera bad registry stalker bwahaha. Anyway, some of my presents already started arriving, and some I just checked and have already been bought off the registry. My mom is arguing with me that I should return the "pointless" items. For example, one of my friends bought me a Waterford vase, which hells no! But she's like "You do not need such an expensive vase!" I also got some expensive crystal serving dishes, and my mom wants me to return those too, but I don't want to since they're so pretty! Also, I had put a really expensive iron on the registry list... like almost $100, and my mom thinks I should return it and get a regular priced iron. Which, I'm not really sure what the difference between a $30/$40 and $100 iron is. The reason why I put it on there was because I was like, this is something I'd ideally like, but I would never buy it for myself. And if someone else buys it for me, then I can justify owning it. What do you all think?

Krystalynne21

A few things....one, what is "pointless" to mom may not be to you.  Two, if you didn't want these things, you wouldn't have put them on your registry.  Keep whatever YOU want to keep....its your registry, your wedding gifts, and they will be kept in your home.  Mom really has no business telling you what to do with your gifts!

killian09

If you like the vase, keep it.If you cannot figure out the difference between the $30 and the $100 iron, then exchange it.  Check product reviews on amazon or a similar site though.You should figure out what is worth it to you and what is not.   Also, think to yourself: would you rather have the iron, or the less fancy iron + new towels (or fill in other item that you could buy with $70 store credit)?  If the answer is "fancy iron", well then stick with it. 

kelmarfar

The beautiful part about your registry is that it's YOURS, not your mother's. If you want to keep the items that were purchased as gifts for you and your FI, then you should keep them. Just because your mother sees a fancy vase and serving pieces as pointless doesn't mean you have to. I received some beautiful serving pieces at my shower, and while some people may see them as pointless, I really love them and I love to entertain, so they will be used. If you feel like you'll use the gifts that you've been given, then you should keep them.

jkepros

Don't get rid of that stuff--you wouldn't have registered for it if you didn't want it!  We registered for all kinds of "pointless" stuff: silver picture frames, crystal vases, lots of serving dishes and more stemware then we'd ever use.  But it's just like what you say, I wanted to pick things that I wanted, but could never justify buying myself, and a wedding is the perfect excuse to hint to people that this is what I'd really like to have.  My goodness, if my mother picked out the gifts we'd end up with all kinds of stuff we'd never use and don't want.  A wedding registry is your chance to let people know what items you'd like to have to fill YOUR home.  Don't return anything unless YOU decide you'd rather pick out something else (like maybe if people don't buy all the items on your registry and you'd rather return something you did get to pick out something that you didn't that you really wanted more).