Hit a wall...

Beantown Mama

I havent't done anything wedding related in the last month. With the move and everything I have been going nuts, and now I can't seem to get back into the swing of things. I still have SO much to do, but it seems that there are so many more important things to worry about right now (like Fi finding a job and keeping diapers on my kids butt and food in his mouth). Sometimes I feel like I should just postpone the wedding. There's about $5,000 of non-refundable deposits already dumped into it though. It's still over 6 months away, but I am just in a slump. Fi's parents are completely non-supportive of the marriage and that doesn't help at all. Fi and I still really want to get married and my parents are paying for everything so the money isn't a problem, but lately I just don't feel like that "blushing bride" I was a couple months ago. Thanks for listening to me whining! Any words of advide are appreciated

clbartnicki

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that! I was just thinking about you. I've missed your "Good Morning!" posts. I was wondering what you've been up to and how you and Anthony have adjusted after the move. That's really too bad that FI's parents are unsupportive. I still think that you and FI should get married if that is what you both want. That said, I don't really have much advice, but let us girls know if you need help with anything! What does your family think of the whole situation? What is FI looking to do again? Sending some knottie vibes your way!

Sara898

Aww, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. You do have time, but have you checked with your vendors to see if you were to change your wedding date to later on in the year, would they be able to just transfer the deposits? Only you know if postponing the wedding is the right thing to do, but maybe doing a little research before hand might give you some peace of mind.It will all work out in the end. Just take it one day at a time!!

jkepros

I KNEW someone's dad was an experienced organist!  That's such a bummer that you feel so stressed right now.  Remember that you still have time (I know people who've STARTED planning their wedding & gotten married in under 6 months).  If you think it's going to be a problem, then you should postpone (if you can), otherwise hang in there!  The knotties are here to support you!  *hugs!*

FtMrskram

Awww...You need to do what is best for YOUR family.  If the wedding is going to interfer with you and FI+Anthony's then maybe postponing it would help.  I think most vendors would transfer deposits to another date.  What is another year to get your feet planted.  I would say your family is priority.  Nevermind what everybody else is saying and doing...do what is right for you guys.  If you need anything, me and the girls on here are here to help!!!  ***Big Hug***

SocialWorker2B

Awww, I am so sorry. Your engagement should be a time of happiness and love but, sorry to be so blunt, most times it's not. Family problems crop up, job losses and moves definitely suck, money problems always seem to be underfoot and the such.IMO, if it is the time you are worried about, then I would say not to worry about it. I got engaged in the middle of February, started planning at the beginning of March and got married six months later. It can definitely be done and since you've already got your vendors booked, you've got a lot done already. No worries. :-)If it's because your FI's family are being dingleberries, then I second pp's opinions and say to do what is best for you, your fiance and your son. Especially your son. He is the most important thing to you and from what I've read in your previous posts, you really want him to be living with both his parents. Don't let your FI's parents stop you from having what you truly want and what's best for your son. Also, I second what pp said about deposits and suggest that you may want to confirm with your vendors to see if they would even be willing to push your date back before you decide if you even want to go down this road or not. I also never felt like a "blushing bride" due to somewhat similar problems (minus having to worry about a child, thank goodness) and it definitely sucked and I wish it could have been different but at at the end of the day, I am married to my best friend and that's that. That's what I want for you too! Good luck and **many, many knottie vibes**!!!!

jwatts23

Stay strong.  You have been supporting your family it seems and the strength for awhile now.  It's okay to feel lost in all this.  Just focus on your family and what matters.  Try jumping back into things with something fun and maybe that will help.  You will be out of your "rut" soon and will be able to look back at this time and be proud of how you handled yourself and took care of your family! 

SHAMRK34

I second everything in the posts above and mostly just wanted to reply with support. You need to worry about what will make you, FI and Anthony a happy family and from what I hear, a happy Mom makes a happy house With that said - don't stress yourself out worrying about a ton of details..if you decide to keep your date try making a list of all the small to dos and assign them each a due date - breaking down the big things will make it all more doable. Let us know if you need support!