honeymoon registry

gostissa

Hello ladies....my question of the day.... did anyone of you use a honeymoon registry web site and, if yes, can you recommend one?
We realized that our "traditional" registry is going fast and we don't want to add more stuff we don't need.... so we thought to create a registry to get money for honeymoon or other bigger expenses. But...which one to trust?

MeaghanandMichael

Etiquette wise these are generally frowned upon because a vacation is something you should be paying for yourself. A gift registry to help you get started on married life is one thing, having grandma donate to your 'sex fest' so to speak it another.

The most appropriate way to do this is spread by word of mouth you are saving for a house or for the honeymoon and you would appreciate cash over gifts. Most people are happy to oblige as they want to get you something you want, and you avoid the tacky factor.

october010bride

I agree with Meaghan BUT if you are totally set on a honeymoon registry try posting this on the honeymoon board or searching through old posts... this question frequently comes up.

EKobrenski

I have to agree with PPs, with one exception. I think the honeymoon registry where you can buy, say a day of scuba diving or dinner at a nice restaurant is ok.  I personally wouldn't do it at all (there's just something a little "ick" about it), but I wouldn't be offended as a guest either.

MandahGirly

I personally don't think it's a big deal - We were originally going to do a honeymoon registry but we've decided to do a small gift registry but just have our immediate family spread it around that we prefer cash gifts.

FYI - I also think it depends on the crowd your having - I had a friend of mine use a honeymoon registry and most of the younger people loved it - But there are lots of older people that need to give some kind of tangible gift. I think word of mouth is fine if you really just prefer money or want to use it on the honeymoon.

jkepros

My friend did a honeymoon registry.  I think it was through honeymoon wishes.  We actually gave them something off it--it was a horse riding tour (they went to Mexico).  They had picked out a few things like that.  Like, a romantic dinner on the beach, scuba diving, etc.  Since I got her something off her BB&B registry for the shower, I thought it was cool to get something different.  I also know they have their own house and didn't need a ton of extra household stuff.  And that the bride used to ride horses/have her own horse when she was younger, so it was very special to them.

BostonBride919

We used Traveler's Joy and it worked out great. We only put "extras" on there bc I do think it's tacky to ask guests to pay for your actual trip (plane tickets, hotel, etc) but I dont see any issue with them buying experiences or nice dinners out, wine, etc as extras and many of our guests chose that over the traditional registry. They do take 7% so keep that in mind for Traveler's Joy but it was easy to set up & easy to use.

RedSoxGirl10

We are doing a honey moon registry through a travel agent. I don't think it's tacky at all. People don't have to buy from it. We've received a lot of positive feedback about it. I'd have a normal registry too just in case, but you should definitely do it. Don't let people convince you not to. I stressed about this so much but I've found the knot people are much more against it than everyone else in the world.

gostissa

Thanks girls..... I think I will do it. We also have a "traditional" registry, so that people will be able to choose what they prefer. I was planning to put extras only in the honeymoon one, and this seems to be the feeling of most of you too! My brother actually did it for his honeymoon at a travel agency, but since lots of our guests are from Italy or CA, this wouldn't work for us. FYI,  I found that Just Together asks for only 6%, which is better than most of the other web sites I found.

SocialWorker2B

Ditto everything redsoxgirl said. But you already have the regular registry so you're all set! Go to it, girl, and enjoy your honeymoon!

karagal

so just watch out because most of the "registries" out there charge a fee just to post money into them.  Our TA, Jennifer at VIP was able to list things, spa credit, candlelight dinner, and excursions if someone contacted her, and she reserved them right from the resort and sent our guests a cert. that they gave us.  She didn't charge any fees to do this.  We got 1 excursion and my mom bought our helicopter transfers. 

junelley

We are going to have our own "honeymoon registry".  My FI is adding that feature on our wedding website, so it won't go through a 3rd party.  Our guests consists largely of family members, so we are not so worried about etiquette or tackiness as most of them actually liked the idea (yeah, FMIL tested the water for us..)   We are, however, also going to have a small traditional registries for guests who prefer to gives gifts. 

We haven't actually started setting this up, yet, but that's our plan!