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And here we go again

So here is the broken record again. My sister has found something else to be unhappy about. Actually, unbeknownst to me, a lot of things.

My aunt offerred to host my shower at her house, and my MOH asked how I felt about it. I told her I was fine with that, or with a hall, the choice would be up to her and my sisters who are my bridesmaids. MOH told me about two weeks ago that one sister told her to go ahead and book a hall, and a few days later the same sister and I were talking, and she told me that she wanted to book a hall for the shower.

That very same day, MOH called me and told me that my sister changed her mind and wanted to have it at someone's house, saying that my aunt's feelings were hurt that they didn't take her up on her offer. Then, my sister offerred her own apartment... how is that any better than going with a hall if my aunt's feelings were supposedly hurt?

So, today MOH called me and told me that my sister left her a voice mail saying that my family is really upset and my aunt feels really badly that they aren't using her house, and the shower should really be moved to the house. Now, I know, I know this is because my sister wants to do this as cheaply as possible.

So, I called another aunt to get the rest of the story, and see if anyone was truly upset, even though I really didn't think so. She said, no, everyone is fine, no hard feelings at all. She goes on to tell me that my sister has been talking to her and telling her that I am making her have her hair done, that I wanted to make her have her makeup done, and I am telling her which shoes to buy. Um... seriously??? You weren't planning on having your hair done up for my wedding? Be real. And the makeup? I simply offerred to make an appointment for her if she chose to have someone do her makeup. When she told me no, she would do her own, I told her that was fine. And the shoes? Honestly, you are mad that the bride is asking you to buy silver shoes, no other guidelines?

Like I told the girls on my club board, I need to take names of everyone who has read about these episodes my sisters keep having. I owe you all an ice cream! Thank you for letting me vent...

Re: And here we go again

  • edited December 2011
    ugh sorry! this sounds like a disaster! Do you think calling her out on it would be worth it or just make things worse??

    good luck!

    and dumb question- which are the "club" boards?

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-boston_here-again?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:89Discussion:2dc68f8f-a71d-4027-9d36-44b900ed0be9Post:133a48eb-9813-43d5-8b77-689656d0b5b4">Re: And here we go again</a>:
    [QUOTE] dumb question- which are the "club" boards?
    Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

    Club board - Your month board on TK. On the left theres a link to "Wedding Month Boards".  HTH!
  • edited December 2011
    o! didn't know that was the name for them :)

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  • edited December 2011
    Ugh, I'm sorry your sister's being so difficult. At least there's only 2 more months left of this. Can you tell your family/MOH that you understand she's difficult, but you're starting to get really stressed with the wedding 2 months away and telling you about what she's saying is really making it hard?
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  • edited December 2011
    I think I asked this before, how old is your sister? She seems like a little brat (I have the type of relationship with my sisters that I would tell them if they were being this way.) Do you think you could have a talk with her?? It would almost make me want to behave like a sh$t when she gets married but I'd probably be a good doobie!! Hugs!!
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks for the support.. Calling her out on it would make it worse- she is one of those people who gets defensive immediately. My MOH is trying to handle this themselves, but in this case I needed to step in because no one else was going to tell her the truth, whether my family is mad at her or not.

    She is 36... divorced with two kids. She should totally know better. But she has always been like this. I think I'm going to take my aunt's advice and write her a note explaining that I feel as though she misinterprets what I say, and from here on out I would rather enjoy everything than have it become a fight.
  • edited December 2011
    Sending you good vibes Love.  You are such a better person than I am.  I would have been bridezilla by now.  Try and stay positive and remember the end game is getting married to the man of your dreams!
  • edited December 2011
    oh wow 36!! yes she should know better, you may just have to deal with her because obviously she's set in her ways. At first I thought she sounded like a rude teenager!! hahaha Well I guess you know how she is so don't expect much from her and just keep concentrated on your upcoming nuptials!!
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