Shower - Who to Invite

jholt1287

I am stumped as to who to invite on my fiance's side.  I don't want to over invite and seem greedy, or I don't want people to be offended.  SHould I invite his mother's sisters (his mother is not alive anymore) and his friends.  We all hang out, although some people are his friends with their wives. 

Who are you inviting and who are you not?

Thanks!

TeebagyAndNorth

I invited all his female relatives... as my FH will be at the event. He will be the only guy invited though. I did not invite any of my FMIL's friends, per her request. We have several coming to the wedding.

As for FH's friends.. I invited the wives/gfs of his friends because I am close to most of them. A few will even come to my bachelorette party.

megandjay

I am struggling with this same issue too! I am letting FI's Mom choose who to invite from their list- since she is hosting my shower at her house. But I am having trouble with my families list too. I feel like it is gift grabby and rude to invite out of town guests that you are pretty sure won't come, but I also don't want to not invite someone and then offend them! Ugh, it is such a fine line. As for FI's friends, I am not inviting his friends wives/gf, unless I am separately friends with them. Thank goodness all I have to do for the shower is provide a list of invitees! Don't think I could handle much more than that! Good luck!

davidheather317

My FH has older daughters that live in Nevada and we live in Wisconsin, even though they wont be able to come for the bridal shower do u think that we should still invite them? i dont want them to feel left out i dont know what do to..please help me?!

october010bride

Fi is very close to his family and there are a lot of them... so basically I told his mother that there is space for 30 of "her/his" guests and asked for a list. I know all of them so there really isn't an issue of seeming gift grabby. Essentially its a mixture of his female relatives and her friends.

EDIT: I added his female friends (only 2) and the gm's so's to my list. In total it was only 5 extra people.

hth!

Karen's MOH

I'm struggling with this as well. I think we will just do grandmother and mother (who are both long distance so I hope it won't seem grabby, I just want to know they are wanted). As for friends, its the same boat-- we are all within the same group of friends, but its kind of like the guys are all friends so the girls became friends by association. I'm leaning towards not just because, hey, showers are not really that much fun so I don't think they will mind.