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Drama!!!

Yesterday things blew up between my FI's sister-in-law and I.  I sent out the invitations last week and on the directions insert I listed our wedding website.  Yesterday I was excited because I had a post on my guestbook.

She left a post saying exactly this "Hope you have a great time, I won't be attending.  No one came to our wedding but it was still beautiful, NO WORRIES"  and to top it off she uploaded a picture from her wedding. TACKY

First of all we weren't invited to the wedding which happened to be in Jamaica.  Second of all FI's brother and SOL had been together 7 years on and off and all of a sudden decided to get engaged 2 weeks after I did.  And she made it known that she had to get married before me. 

FI's family hates her.  She lives in FI's father's apartment w/his brother and they haven't paid rent to him in over a year. And she consistently says awful things about them to her husband who doesn't even stand up for them.

 I finally got up the nerve to call her out on all of it yesterday and she completely bashed his family and myself in several emails.  She accused me of running and telling on her about an innocent comment.  I told her she posted it on a public website and that she knew she was stirring the pot.  It all resulted in FI's mom leaving her a message telling her to get out of their apartment ASAP.  And now she's threatening to divorce my soon to be BIL if he goes to our wedding!! 

Really don't need to deal with this right now 2 months before my wedding.  I had to even take down my guestbook page in fear that she would write nasty things. 

Thanks if you read all the way to the end.  Feels good to vent!!! 

Re: Drama!!!

  • deborah2121deborah2121 member
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    edited December 2011
    OMG--your post title immediately got my attention. I am speechless.  Good for you for addressing her, but what a train wreck she sounds like!  And you are so right that you don't need to deal with this--this is clearly her issue.  Sending you happy wedding planning vibes!  
  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    Holy cabooses, what a whack job! Good for you for telling her off, it sounds like she needed a good dose of reality. I just feel really sorry for your FI's brother and family for having to deal with her and her shenanigans.
  • caralinda1985caralinda1985 member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh you girls have no idea.  I could go on and on about all the stunts she's pulled.

    I feel horrible for them.  This has been going on since before I even came in the picture, but no one would speak up.  She just walks all over them. 

    And if you had seen some of the things she wrote about her husband knowing full well it would get back to him!  It's really sad!!
  • edited December 2011
    The one thing you can be thankful for is that FI's family really does have your back.  It must be nice to know they are willing to stick up for you.

    That being said, she sounds like a boatload of crazy.  Clearly it's not just you who she has issues with.  Don't even think twice about her again and move on.  You have a beautiful wedding to plan and don't let her cause issues because it's letting her win.  You are wayyyy above that :) Good luck!!
  • edited December 2011
    She sounds nuts! I agree with everyone, think about all the positive things, your FILs support you and your wedding and just try to ignore her crap.
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  • edited December 2011
    You don't need this stress, she's sounds like a brat who doesn't get her way!!! From here on out try to ignore her the best you can (she already said she isn't going to your wedding so good ridance!!)

    Ignore her, don't give her anymore attention, she's basically sh$t on your shoe. Remove her from your life and keep going.
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  • edited December 2011
    She's crazy!!! A truckload of crazy!  I'm so impressed that F family is right behind you, thats fantastic!  How sad that she wrote awful things about her own husband without a care of who would see them.  So sad to hear your going through something like this, but I'm sending positive wedding vibes to you.  I'm sure it will get better now that everyone (including her husband) now knows exactly how she feels.
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  • Blueyed228Blueyed228 member
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    edited December 2011

    You should never feel bad about standing up for yourself.

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  • edited December 2011
    She is def. crazy and probably jealous that you actually get along with your FI's family. Don't let the bastids get you down!
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  • jkeprosjkepros member
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    edited December 2011
    Whoa!  Hello, crazy!  Hopefully she WILL divorce FBIL, and give your FI's poor family a break!  Hang in there, and know that it's not you...it's HER!  Glad to hear tho that your FI's family is all supporting & standing up for you--not that you even did anything wrong and should need standing up for.  *hugs*  Hopefully she'll stay away from your wedding and you'll have an awesome, drama-free day!!! 
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  • caralinda1985caralinda1985 member
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    edited December 2011
    You girls are so awesome!!

    I am really lucky that they've backed me up.  I think they're just so happy to have someone stand up for them for a change! 

    Just an update, last night supposedly her family was going to help her move everything out of the apartment and she was telling her husband she was seriously considering divorce.  My FI didn't know what to tell him except congratulations. 

    Yesterday she didn't try contacting me at all so I think its pretty much over.  Must have been all the good vibes you girls were sending me! 
  • edited December 2011
    Sounds like she has some serious power / control issues.  Most likely what she's doing with your wedding actually has absolutely nothing to do with you.  And she really needs to sort her issues with your FBIL and his family out.  If she is willing to use him going to your wedding as a reason for divorce, it sounds like she is just searching for an excuse.  I wouldn't worry about it too much - but definitely good that you told her off!  It stinks FBIL is getting dragged into all of this. 
  • lundarlundar member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry you're going through this. I think this is a great place to vent though. Knotties have each others' backs :)
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