Who...?

shannon41885

Did or will walk you down the aisle?

I think I am going to walk alone, but wanted to see what others did.. most probably had their dads I assume.

bostonbride214

I was a traditionalist and my Dad walked me down the aisle...but we have had friends that had different variations at their weddings: both parents - one on either side of the bride, just the bride and her mother - father is no longer living or estranged and brides that have walked alone...it is entirely up to you ---and my feeling is there is not one right way to walk down the aisle...you should do / have what YOU want and are comfortable with and not what you think others want you to do 

shannon41885

I will mostlikely walk myself, I was just curious if anyone did anything different, I've heard of many different variations, one of my sisters had her 4 y/o son walk her, the other had my brother.  

My father has not been around since I was four and my mom drives me crazy, I do believe this is her (their, parents) job, but I think worrying about her walking me down the aisle would stress me out from now until I walked down the aisle, I dont mean to sound ungrateful, I love my mom and i'm very lucky to have her. but.. She is one to put a negative tone on anything and everything, so to save myself the aggervation, I asked my brother (whom FI did not want as a groomsman) to escort my mother down the aisle and alleviate the headache of having the rest of my family in the wedding except for him... come to find out, he thought I said "ME" and I had to clear that up already..

anywho's.. anyone else

Starmusica

My father and my grandfather walked me down the aisle together....We lost my grandfather a couple months later so for me.... it was invaluable. There aren't actually words..

You don't necessarily have to have anyone walk you down.... it's all about what makes you feel comfortable.

Kit483

i edited out the aisle completely because of family dynamic/my comfort level. we are having our cocktail hour first, and then we are just gathering for the ceremony before dinner.

noodle_oo

I walked alone.  My dad did not support our marriage and it was questionable as to whether or not he'd even come. 

I also felt that it was sort of symbolic.  I'm an adult and making the choice to spend my life with my DH, so it felt right to walk to him alone.  I loved it!  The day was about the 2 of us most importantly and I really felt that.

JBs_Bride

I had both of my parents walk me down the aisle.

Like the other girls said... do what makes you the most comfortable. )

rockstar8575

I am having my mom walk me down. My mom and I are very close and I haven't really had a relationship with my father since my parents divorce when I was young.

booboo1978

Both my parents are walking me down. My mom said years ago, "if I survive this cancer, I'm walking you down the aisle. Any aisle. I don't care if the aisle is in the living room".  She's getting her wish, 13 years and 6 cancers later. 
Being honest, I'm not close to my dad and I'm super close to my mom, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's not an open, emotional guy, but he's still my dad and he loves me and my FI a lot, in his own way.  So they'll both be there

TeresaB2011

My oldest son is walkiing me down the isle.  He's 30 and he as always been my rock.  My father is deceased.

bmoruzzi

My father has passed away as well so my mom will be walking me.  I would not want to walk alone, I think it's sad.  It would be for me anyway.  

kt8301

This question has been on my mind too - I am still feeling a little conflicted...

JBs and BooBoo - are both your parents still together? 

My parents divorced about 8 years ago and my dad has since re-married.  

I am SUPER close with my mom, so I love the idea of honoring her with walking me down the aisle, but part of me is a traditionalist and would not want to disrespect my dad by not having him walk me. 

I've thought of having them both walk me down the aisle - but is this weird if they are divorced?  Sorry for the ramble...  your thoughts are much appreciated!

kt8301

Also - a gf married this summer walked by herself (father not supportive of marriage).  She looked beautiful and it was a non-issue, so I think you could totally pull it off!

Erica1011

I am having my brother walk me down the aisle. 

But I agree with everyone else...  Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.  Weddings do not have to be "cookie-cutter" so make it unique for you... and follow your gut.

booboo1978

@ Kt8: yes, my parents are still together (just celebrated 36 yrs of marriage in October).  However, my dad and I were never close (choice on his part to be a workaholic and emotionally distant to his kids, he's never been there for me or my brother in any type of emotional or "dad" way--never came to a performance or sporting event, never showed interest in what we did, just wanted to make sure straight A's were coming in and that's about it. Nothing more than that. Again, his choice).  I'm much, much closer to my mom and would prefer that she alone walk me down the aisle, but we both feel that would disrespect my dad and I'm not about to embaress him in front of family or friends. 
I'm finding I have to try really hard to find a father/daughter dance that isn't cheesy or tear jerky.  That's not us, and I'm having some issue finding one.....but that's a different issue for a different day......

JBs_Bride

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[QUOTE]This question has been on my mind too - I am still feeling a little conflicted... JBs and BooBoo - are both your parents still together?  My parents divorced about 8 years ago and my dad has since re-married.   I am SUPER close with my mom, so I love the idea of honoring her with walking me down the aisle, but part of me is a traditionalist and would not want to disrespect my dad by not having him walk me.  I've thought of having them both walk me down the aisle - but is this weird if they are divorced?  Sorry for the ramble...  your thoughts are much appreciated!
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My parents are still together.

If your parents get along, despite the divorce, I don't see anything wrong with having them both walk you down.