Polite response

mccoshr

Any ideas about how to respond when people assume they are going to be invited, when they are actually on the B list. The only reason we have them on the B list is due to financial reasons. Thanks!

MeaghanandMichael

I would just say, "oh you know how long weddings take to plan... and my gosh they are SO expensive, we really have not finalized everything yet, you know how it is." If they point blank ask you if they are invited and then are not I would say, "we would love to have you, but the venue/budget is so tight." I wouldn't mention anything about the B list as that is rude. If you do have room in the end, great. Don't mention they 'amy' be invited.

Also, no matter what you are going to feel uncomfortable discussing these things with people. Just do your best to keep things light and know that when people pressure you for details it is they who are in the wrong, not you. Laugh it off as best you can.

Shazzie116

I agree with Meaghan, stand your ground and keep it light. Unfortunately this happened with a guy we are ok friends with but weren't planning on inviting, and he point blank asked FI at another friend's wedding when his bachelor party was because he hadn't gotten any details. FI felt guilty and added him on, and this past weekend the same friend (who we invited single, he's not dating anyone and has not dated anyone for as long as we've known him) asked FI at a party if he could bring his ballroom dance partner. WTF??

So yeah, stand your ground and keep it light.