what did you week/day before the wedding look like?

LexiMS

I am having the bridal party ask me what the plans are before the wedding, when they should come into town, etc. Everyone is coming in from out of town (except one bridesmaid).  I was planning on coming home (Lexington) the week before.  I am hoping that I won't have a ton of stuff to do, but I am sure I will.  Rehersal is Friday night in Gloucester, Wedding Saturday evening.  Any opinions?

EKobrenski

I'm also doing a bride's luncheon and spa day either the day of the rehearsal or the day before (depending on when people are flying in). 

Shazzie116

As another OOT bride, I have just been telling them what they need to know, as far as rehearsal time and location, rehearsal dinner time and location, when to drop of their dresses at my suite, and what time to be at the salon Saturday morning. If I got into the details with them of everything else I have to do, they'd probably go cross-eyed. 

Some people make a wedding day/weekend timeline. I just ran out of time and energy. I'm actually kind of amazed they're asking you this so far out, I didn't start getting these questions until probably 2 weeks ago. 

 I can't stress enough the benefit of getting as much done ahead of time as possible. My girlfriend came over last night for wine, Idol, and programs assembly because I got in way over my head and didn't anticipate how much time each darn program would take. I never would have finished on my own and would probably be a huge wreck at this point. 

Delegate, delegate, delegate. I am a huge control freak, so it's been hard to ask for help. Especially on projects I've invested so much of my own design and effort in. But it's saving me a lot of stress to just say the 3 magic words: "Please help me". Or "You do it". haha

jwatts23

I agree with Shaz, try to get as much done ahead of time as possible. You are going to fell nervous/stressed/excited, so many emotions, its helpful to not have to do a ton the last few days leading up to the wedding.

We had our wedding in Boston and when we went into town on Thursday I tried my best to have VERY little left to do (besides pick up my dress and a few small things). I made sure to book myself a massage the day before the wedding just to de-stress.  Try to have fun activities with your bridal party, we did a bridal party lunch which was great. 

The whole time will fly by so, if you can, try to make it relaxing as possible. I was so nervous/excited I can't imagine having tons of things to do a day before the wedding. 

GL!

eeyore4771

I spent the whole week before my wedding putting together the little stuff, like programs, favors, place cards, etc.  Granted I could have done that stuff beforehand and not done it then, so I would think if you have all of the little stuff taken care of, there's not really that much to do before the wedding.  Off the top of my head, the only tasks I can think of were bringing the OOT bags and other ceremony/reception stuff to the hotel (ceremony and reception were both there), picking up my dress from getting pressed, and getting my nails done.  Then we had the RD the night before.  I didn't do any big group things besides that.  HTH!

CCBelle

Make lots of lists!  People will ask what they can do to help, and you should definitely take them up on it :-)  If you have lists of assigned tasks, you can easily dole them out w/out taking advantage of one person.  I spent the Thurs. before my wedding delivering all the hotel goodie bags with my MOH and we managed to finish early and go out for a glass of wine.  Then the rest of my friends arrived on Fri. in time for manis/pedis and catered lunch.  Whatever you do, try to make time to relax and enjoy your family and friends that are all travelling so far just to be with you!

BostonBride919

I made Wednesday before my "cut off" date which meant if something wasn't done by then, it wasn't going to be done. I wanted to enjoy having all of our guests in town. Thursday morning, my MOH and I did a spa day. Thursday night, we had all of the BP and some of our other friends meet us at a bar on Boylston to get the party started. That was great to break the ice as most of our BP (guys v girls) hadn't met yet and all of our friends got to know each other better.

Friday we did a bridesmaid brunch and Mani/Pedi's at MiniLuxe and then Friday night was our Rehearsal, RD, and Welcome Party.

I suggest you make time to hang out with everyone and stop the wedding craziness as you'll want to enjoy the whole week with everyone there!

LexiMS

Thanks for all your advice guys!  I think keeping things more casual and not having a "big planned event" as one of my bridesmaids wants is the way to go.