NWR Vent!

jonchrissy

So FI just called to let me know he might quit his job. Yesterday his office told him there were a bunch of changes they were making in the office (he works at a newspaper). They're making them take more furlough days, no more overtime, no raises again this year (they only get 25cents anyway) and he would be working every night (it used to be daytime except Fri and Sat nights). I understand why he wants to quit but I am so nervous he won't find a job. He lives 2 hours away as it is, has no more friends there as they've all found new jobs and moved away, and is miserable and has been for a year now. He can honestly make more money working at Dunkin Donuts, but I'm nervous that he won't find a "real" job and he will lose at least 1 reference. His editor is planning on quitting in June and understands the situation just as well. But it just makes me nervous...
He has discussed it with me in the past, and we decided when the time comes, he would give notice to his landlord which would by 2 more months to actually quit and find a new job. His parent's also said they support the decision and will financially support him until a new job comes along.
Sorry I just had to vent, I get anxious so easily!

jwatts23

That's a hard position and I totally understand the anxiousness.  It wasn't like he was fired so he could still use people as his reference (like his editor who understands his decision). 

I can relate to this situation because my H (then FI) had a very well paying job with great/amazing benefits but it was in retail and the hours were awful.  He was so unhappy and it really took a toll on the both of us.  He finally decided that it'd be best to quit and start over completely.  It was a scary time and really a big move but it was the best thing for us.  He started over in a new carreer path and is going back to school. We are struggling being on a budget but we are happier which is the best thing.

My advice to you, is support him.  Sounds like his head is in the right place and staying in a job he hates isn't going to help him.  It's great he has the financial support so it will make it a bit easier hopefully.  The decision is a tough one but sounds like the job is toxic and maybe would be best to move on.

Good luck, sending you some good vibes..

Shazzie116

Hang in there. The good news is the job market is better than it was a year ago, even 6 months ago. It would take adjustment, but if it's better for him in the long run, I agree with jwatts, the best thing you can do is support him and work through it together. As someone potentially facing a similar situation, it's definitely scary, but you have to look at the bigger scheme of things. It might be tough for a while but completely worth it in the long run. 

jonchrissy

Thanks ladies! Your advice helps a lot! Hopefully one of the places he's applied to lately will call him for an interview soon. That at least gives us a little hope something's happening! And you're right, this will be better in the long run and I don't think either of us can take the stress it's been putting on us. If he does quit, I know his mental health will be much better for it.

Beantown Mama

A lot of the ladies here will remember how completely freaked out I was when Fi quit his job in NC because he was so miserable and dragged me and our child back here to Boston. While the transition was not fun at all, the end result was worth it.It was hard while Fi was looking for a job and we were looking for an apartment, but now everything has come together and we are finally feeling stable again.

I'm sure whatever happens with Fi's job it is for the best and you just need to support him and try not to stress. I know it's hard, but I also know that someday (hopefully soon) you will be settled with jobs and happy as can be.