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Has made me really sad today. I have always felt like I can come on here for great advice, ideas and honest opinions but after the open bar poll took off I feel like that is really not the case. Nobody really knows anyone's situations or what their life is like and I feel like instead of the responses being constructive they became a personal attack on people which is pretty sad. I understand that someone posted about spending $50k on a wedding but did not want to have a full opne bar but why is that anybody's business. Everyone's idea of what is important on THEIR wedding day is different. Having ALL of my friends and familiy witness me marry the man I love is the most important thing to me and if that means I make sacrifices elsewhere, well too bad. I know no one personally attacked me but I just feel really bad when something like a poll can get such negative feedback. That's not what we are here for ladies. This board is supposed to be about support. Ok, on that note I stil lovbe you all (steps off of soap box)
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  • edited December 2011
    Very well said
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  • edited December 2011
    Hmmm...To be honest I don't think there were many personal attacks, except for maybe Meaghan's posts, which admittedly were a little extreme (sorry girl!)  Even in those posts, I don't think she's necessarily attacking the OP for not having an open bar, more for her attitude about it. 

    However, if I said anything to offend you, I wholeheartedly apologize, I def don't think I was being judgemental in any way.  To be honest, in your situation I would do the same thing (have those close to me there vs less guests and open bar). 
  • edited December 2011
    Oh, also, who is the random chick that just posted?
  • edited December 2011
    I agreeLaughing just want to come somewhere where I can get good feedback about vendors and talk to other brides stressing out about the same thing and not hear people calling someone a c-bag.
    We all have something in common and this should really be a happy time in all of our lives and not be more stressful. We all have different opinons, finacial situations, life situations and that doesn't make any one person better or worse. Obviously my foolish brain being a newby didn't realize that Snarky board was pretty harsh- duh I know! but I've learned and will not post there again because I do like puppies and rainbows Smile
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  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    Always, I agree with you, but I think we also tend to forget that these are boards that pretty much anyone could see and respond too, and when we post things that we're passionate about or sensitive to, you open yourself up to any kind of response. Meaghan has a heart of gold, and I honestly don't think she meant to hurt any feelings if that's the case. But when you put opinions out there or ask questions, you need to be prepared to hear the worst. These boards are awesome for support and advice, but you're not always going to hear what you want to hear. Especially if you post on a "Snark" board. 


  • edited December 2011
    Ekobs no need to apologize! Your posts seemed fine. I just wanted to remind everyone what this board is all about. We're better then those snarky girls :) And I have no clue who that last poster was. Weird. Probably just created a name specifically to post something stupid on the board.
  • edited December 2011
    PS- I totally think the snarky board is hillarious. It's like "Oh I am feeling bitchy today, I am going to find a board where I can flame everyone and everything"

    Also, I really am not pointing out anyone in particluar for being mean, especially not Meaghan. Like I said, just trying to bring the board back to all the sunshine we usually have :)   Meaghan has had some of the best advice on here.
  • edited December 2011
    Yeah, I admit I got riled up. But I don't take it back. I think that if you are posting on an internet forum you have all the right in the world to accept criticism based off the information you give. Honest to god I see some of the brattiest, selfish, cheesiest things go aorund this board all day long. Do I say anything? No. Do I give encouragement, ideas, advice on a wide range of topics alomst daily? Yes.

    However, this combined with a number of other posts lately (that I really doubt you would appreciate me going into) have really made me angry. Your idea of what is important on your wedding day may be different than mine, but I judge you for it harshly if you are taking advantage of people and focusing solely on your own wants and needs. A wedding is about family and friends coming together to witness a serious vow between you and the person you love. I'll be damned if it turns into a 'me' fest without me having a say on behalf of brides everywhere who take very seriously their commitement to being reasonable and gracious.

    Yeah and I already know where you are going to go with this... If I were classy, gracious, any number of things I would keep my mouth shut and be happy for every one. Go there if you must,..
  • edited December 2011
    And yeah, I never understand why people post on a snark board, or an etiquette board, and are surprised when people tell them how it is. Are most of them unrelently mean? Yes. I actuallyget into it all the time with people on etiquette for being unneessesarily bitchy. But thank god some one is giving answers that make people think twice.
  • edited December 2011
    I try not to travel outside of the boston board although the DIY board is really nice. I like a good honest opinion but I really feel like some of those girl are PMSing on steroids.
  • coreywalkcoreywalk member
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    edited December 2011
    I think Meaghan is right.  If all of us just ooh and ahh over every thought, question or decision the others make, are we really helping each other out?  I know that when I ask a question, I don't want just positive responses--I want them all.

    Also, it is so important to keep in mind that tone can't be read well over the internet, I think sometimes we think posts are a lot harsher than they were intended!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-boston_this-board?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:89Discussion:fbeb5ecd-2a2c-4c00-83e6-baf5f466626ePost:28ca673e-ce70-45b9-be51-876104f4eb35">Re: This board...</a>:
    [QUOTE] Yeah and I already know where you are going to go with this... If I were classy, gracious, any number of things I would keep my mouth shut and be happy for every one. Go there if you must,..
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    I think there's a fine line to walk between giving your opinon and solicited advice and getting riled up over someone's breach of etiquette.  It happens to the best of us.  I think Emily Post said something along the lines of: It is considered a worse breach of etiquette to point out someone else's mistake than the mistake itself, no matter what it is.  However, if your opinion is asked, I def don't think candy coating is appropriate. I DO think there is something to be said about grace and diplomacy even when saying something that might not be well received. 
  • edited December 2011
    Always, I agree with you 100000000000%

    And I'm sorry if I'm a little selfish, but I'd like my wedding to be about me and my future husband just a little bit!!

    I think the whole cash bar/open bar thing is something that shouldn't happen. I've gotten so stressed out about it because it's brought up on these damn boards. But now I'm not letting it affect me because I know that my friends and family want to be at my wedding to celebrate our union and not to get trashed.
  • edited December 2011
    And I usually do Ekobs, I usually do...
  • edited December 2011
    Yes you usually do and give great advice.  And you're def not one of the smile and nodders, which I appreciate Wink  Love ya b!tch! 
  • edited December 2011
    hehehe if you just quoted mean girls that would MAKE my day...
  • edited December 2011
    Consider your day made... you go Glen Coco!
  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    I WANT MY PINK SHIRT BACK!
  • edited December 2011
    OMG you guys are so fetch! 
  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    Kobs, stop using the word fetch. It's NOT cool, it's NOT going to BE cool. Goshhhh....
  • edited December 2011
    Stop trying to make fetch happen!

    Ok sorry Ekobs, I am just really sad because I got some awesome white gold hoop earrings for Hannukah and I am not allowed to wear them.

    and ooooh Kevin G!
  • edited December 2011
    Ok I'm busting the two best ones:

    Growing up female in this world is not easy. In China, baby girls are routinely put up for adoption. And in parts of Africa, women are still made to live in tents during the time of their menses.A nd even in fancy countries like the United States and England, seven out of ten girls have a negative body image.

    Who cares? Six of those girls are right!

    Everyone keeps saying I'm not a virgin bc I prefer jumbo tampons....haha
  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    Haha Kobs, I was gonna quote that second one on Facebook. Classic! 
  • edited December 2011
    I could do this all day.

    The two I use regularly IRL are, "Boo you whore" and "Whatever, I'm getting cheese fries!"

    Mike constantly busts out, "She doesn't even GO here!"


    ps- 10 Things I Hate About You was on this weekend. I could do the exact same thing with that movie.
  • edited December 2011
    I'm gone for a long weekend in FLA and so much happened! ah!

    But starting your Monday out with Mean Girls quotes is always a good thing ; )
  • edited December 2011
    Long weekend in Florida? SO jealous? What part? Are you tan? :)
  • edited December 2011
    We went to visit my parents and grandparents who are there for a month.  We were in Delray which was nice.  We visited a safari that you drive thru which was my favorite (such a dork, I know).

    Tan? I wish!  I burn like you would not believe.  Babies 80 for this kid and I still burn!  So tragic :(
  • edited December 2011
    ummmm I TOTALLY went on a safari drive thru with Mike's grandparents when I was in West Palm over Christmas. That thing was the bomb!
  • edited December 2011
    I think it was the same one!! It was in West Palm!  So funny, it was great!!
    Minus the part where the rhino got like 2 inches away from the car and looked none too pleased!
  • coreywalkcoreywalk member
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    edited December 2011
    Weird--I think I have also been to this same Safari--Lion Country Safari, is it?  SO FUN!  
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