Picking a date close to another wedding

lweninger

My fiance's friend is getting married August 6th.  We would like to get married next summer as well.  I don't want the weddings too close together, but we just started, May/June doesn't give us much time to plan.  Is July or late August too close?  Do I call the other bride to clear it with her?

squirrly

Any date other than August 6th should be fine.  If you pick the preceeding or following Saturday, one of you may miss the other's wedding due to your HM.  I'd probably be sure there's at least two weeks in there, but you don't have to. 

A reg on here that I've become friends with IRL came to our wedding - the Saturday before her own.  We weren't able to attend hers due to our HM, which was sad, but I don't think the timing caused any undue stress or difficulties. 

And no, you don't need to clear it with her - even if you picked the same date.  (We had that happen with some of H's friends from HS, actually.)  Mutual friends would have to pick one or the other, but she doesn't have a monopoly on a  whole wedding season by any means.

kellya01

One of my BM's is getting married June 4, and we wanted to make sure to give them time to honeymoon AND get back so that she could be part of our wedding (her FI is in the wedding party too).  

Our date is July 16.  We originally wanted July 9.  I would say generally 1 month away is plenty of time, IF they are going to be in your wedding party.  If they're just attending, IMO you'll be plenty safe as long as you are either 2 weeks before or after.  

kcscejal

I would try and put 2-3 weeks between the weddings just so honeymoon timing doesn't get in the way.  As long as you don't choose her date though everything is fine.  There is no need to consult her, but you could ask when she is planning on taking her honeymoon so that you don't schedule it while they are gone.

ehathewa

2 weeks is plenty. 

NatandIsaac

I would do at least a week between the dates, only because if they are days apart it may be hard for you to attend her wedding. You do not need to clear anything with the other bride.

golden1215

I set my date after my friend even though I was engaged first.  I just called her and asked her thoughts (I was in her wedding) and she said 2 weeks was good, so we did two weeks.  She missed my bachelorette party the weekend before our wedding but it wasnt a big deal.

cherbein

Is this a close friend where your FI is in their wedding party?  If not, I'd say you're probably fine with a two week gap and all should be okay.  Talk it over with your FI and see what he thinks as he'll probably know his friend better.  Summer is serious wedding season and I know that this summer I have a wedding for one of my FI's friends on a Sunday in July followed by another that next Saturday (one high school and one college friend that don't know eachother).  These things happen and people work it out!