Invitation Questions

McRogol

We're getting our act together with invitations.  I have two questions...

1 - When do we send them?  We sent STDs with accomodation information for everyone since no one is technically "local."  It's a quasi-destination wedding for everyone but us.

2 - Becuase everyone will be traveling between 30miles-3000miles to attend, we're having a Welcome Party instead of a Rehearsal Dinner, and brunch the day after the wedding.  Do we send separate invites for these things or can we put the Welcome Party and Brunch on the RSVP in order to get a head count.  The STD had all the weekend "events" on it.

Thank you!

mlg78

How FUN! I want to go to your wedding!

I think you should include it all in your invitation so people have everything in one envelope.  I hope you have also made a wedding website because with all of your details it'd be great to be able to reference things there as well.  I'd send your invites out at 8 weeks since travel is involved.  As far as RSVPing, I'd put three RSVPs on one card as long as it's clear to people which event they're rsvping for, if that makes sense.  Have fun!

jessicabessica

Send the invitations 6-8 weeks out.  

We did the same as you and invited everyone to a day-before meal and a day-after brunch.  We put them all on the RSVP card with the invitation, and we included a card with invitation info for the other events with the main invitation.  If you have separate people hosting the other meals from the wedding, the most proper thing to do would be to send separate invitations, but none of the people hosting the events for us cared about it, and we were compiling all of the RSVP information anyway.  We did phrase the smaller card to indicate who was hosting the other events.  We also put the info for the other events on our wedding website to help people plan their trip.

libby18bell

I'm in a similar pickle.  How do you handle it when you are only including out of town guests and local family to the brunch the day after?  Our final head count for the wedding will be 250, but I don't want to host brunch for 250 people.  We want to keep the brunch small and only have family and very close out of town friends.  Any advice?

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]I'm in a similar pickle.  How do you handle it when you are only including out of town guests and local family to the brunch the day after?  Our final head count for the wedding will be 250, but I don't want to host brunch for 250 people.  We want to keep the brunch small and only have family and very close out of town friends.  Any advice?
Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]

If you're not inviting <strong>everyone</strong> then the events need their own invitations.  You can send actual paper invitations to those invited (as people generally do for a rehearsal dinner, for example), or you can just spread it by word of mouth if you don't need a count.  We were verbally invited to brunch at a friends wedding last year; as far as I can tell everyone was just a verbal invite (it was all immediate family and BP/SOs); It seemed to work out well, but I realize that can be difficult to plan without a headcount.  You can let those guests know verbally ahead of time to get an idea if they'll attend or not.