Anyone else about 2 weeks out? Or remember that time...?

shannonalise

I'm kind of panicking about how many tiny things there are to do. It will all come together, I know, but if you're about 2 weeks out, how are you dealing with the last-minute stresses?

If you're already married, do you remember how you felt this close to the day? Is there anything you would have done differently to make things easier, or less stressful?

Finally, is it bad that I:

1. Still haven't written vows
2. Still don't have centerpieces decided upon
3. Don't have my escort or place cards
4. Don't have table assignments
5. Still haven't decided upon music yet

And many other little things too?   I am working toward completing these things every day, but I'm crampy and tired, so I think I'm going to take my beagle for a hike and do nothing else wedding related today. But stress of course...

Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

AlmondWhittle

add about 10 things to that list and you're exactly where i was the day before my wedding.

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]add about 10 things to that list and you're exactly where i was the day before my wedding.
Posted by AlmondWhittle[/QUOTE]

Yikes! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />

theaterchica83

I am 5 days out and I still haven't gotten some of the little details nailed down...DO NOT panic...it is amazing to me what has come together even between this week and last week....things have had a way of working themselves out (or just not becoming that important). Hope it all comes together for you and I think you're right in taking a break today....forced vows that are written just because you have to right now are never pretty.

Brie2010

I'm a week out, and I am dealing by drinking a lot more wine than I normally do, crying at work, and exercising.  I don't recommend it.

I'm no help.  I just want it over with at this point, too.

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]I am 5 days out and I still haven't gotten some of the little details nailed down...DO NOT panic...it is amazing to me what has come together even between this week and last week....things have had a way of working themselves out (or just not becoming that important). Hope it all comes together for you and I think you're right in taking a break today....forced vows that are written just because you have to right now are never pretty.
Posted by theaterchica83[/QUOTE]

I agree. Thanks!

lizziemoopsc

That's pretty much my list too, and mine's the day before yours My RSVP date was May 1, and I need the final count by this Saturday, so I'm not doing the seating until Sunday As for vows, as long as the officiant has a copy that he can read, I think you're ok. Music can be a little trickier, depending on if you're using live musicians or cds, but I think we should be ok. Centerpieces, particularly if you're not doing flowers, can be as simple, easy, and quick as you want them to be! Think of it this way: you have a groom, a dress, an officiant- what you NEED to get married. You seem like you have a venue, food, and extra stuff, so you're ahead of the game Enjoy the last couple weeks instead of stressing (and I'll take my own advice) HTH!

shellydiane820

I had just about everything done two weeks out

I was finalizing flowers, making sure vendors recieved final payments and sending the DJ our music.

kd.joseph

Hello date twin! I'm sure it will all come together, you'll be fine. As for me I have everything done that I can get done, some things have to wait until we arrive in SC.
The only thing left on my list is my FI's list. He said it's his plan to wait, and drive me crazy enough to do it for him(which I would), but he teases. Good luck.

By the way, as far as the FBIL thing goes. As my Mother always says "We teach people how to treat us".So if they walk all over us it's our own fault. So personally I'd put my foot down now, before you get married.

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]I'm a week out, and I am dealing by drinking a lot more wine than I normally do, crying at work, and exercising.  I don't recommend it. I'm no help.  I just want it over with at this point, too.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

Aww.. Brie. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cry.gif" border="0" alt="Cry" title="Cry" /> That makes me sad to think of you crying at work. But the exercise is wonderful for you! I've been so inspired by your blog and your incredible weight loss journey. You're going to be so beautiful on the day! I wish I could feel as accomplished as you are!

I do notice I've been drinking more than usual too. Maybe that's why I haven't gotten as much done as I should have! Evidence from the day before yesterday, which should have been wedding planning day with my mom:

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shannonalise

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[QUOTE]That's pretty much my list too, and mine's the day before yours :) My RSVP date was May 1, and I need the final count by this Saturday, so I'm not doing the seating until Sunday :) As for vows, as long as the officiant has a copy that he can read, I think you're ok. Music can be a little trickier, depending on if you're using live musicians or cds, but I think we should be ok. Centerpieces, particularly if you're not doing flowers, can be as simple, easy, and quick as you want them to be! Think of it this way: you have a groom, a dress, an officiant- what you NEED to get married. You seem like you have a venue, food, and extra stuff, so you're ahead of the game :) Enjoy the last couple weeks instead of stressing (and I'll take my own advice) HTH!
Posted by lizziemoopsc[/QUOTE]

This is excellent advice. And you're right!

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]I had just about everything done two weeks out :( I was finalizing flowers, making sure vendors recieved final payments and sending the DJ our music.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

Whew. You're inspirational, my dear!

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]Hello date twin! I'm sure it will all come together, you'll be fine. As for me I have everything done that I can get done, some things have to wait until we arrive in SC. The only thing left on my list is my FI's list. He said it's his plan to wait, and drive me crazy enough to do it for him(which I would), but he teases. Good luck. By the way, as far as the FBIL thing goes. As my Mother always says "<strong>We teach people how to treat us</strong>".So if they walk all over us it's our own fault. So personally I'd put my foot down now, before you get married.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

This definitely had an impact on me. Thank you.

lizziemoopsc

I'm keeping my sanity by remembering everything else is just extra! I'm graduating this Friday so everything is on hold until after school is over!  

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]I'm keeping my sanity by remembering everything else is just extra! I'm graduating this Friday so everything is on hold until after school is over! :) 
Posted by lizziemoopsc[/QUOTE]

Congrats, girlie! That's awesome! I just graduated on the 24th and I remember feeling that way too - everything was on hold until after graduation. It's MUCH easier when you're finished. You'll see. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

lizziemoopsc

When we first set the date I thought "Man, everything will be within two weeks, that will be great" and now I'm thinking "dumb decision". I finished my Master's research/thesis two weeks ago, so I only have a few loose ends to tie up with presentations and paperwork. That said, I'm not going to feel completely done until that hood is around my neck and diploma in hand! Haha Ah well, I'll have two weeks or only work instead of work and school, which just seems easy in comparison! Thanks for the encouragement!

jayjoe

i remember that time..and in a strange way i'm jealous LOL But i had everything done and those last two weeks i did nothing but relax

kikipania

I'm there with ya.

Except I have a few (ok a lot) more things to do on my list. Oi

brookelynpaisley

Aw, you're so close. I remember just wanting it to be here, feeling like my list was a mile-long, and being exhausted. I got married in October and didn't get a good night's sleep after August.

Everything will come together. I know it gets a little frustrating hearing "all you need is a bride, groom, officiant and license" when you have so many things in the works, but allow yourself to relax some. You really don't have too much, although the items can be time consuming. Just make yourself a schedule and prioritize to get things done.

The last 2 days were the best. Once people started arriving, everything got fun and I really relaxed.

Hang in there! Get some sleep and focus on your tasks you have listed as of now. Adding anything you to what you have now will only stress you out.

thesuninherhead

SO late to this, but one and a half weeks out I was shopping for a dress. 

Not by choice, mind you, but shopping with nothing else to wear nonetheless. 

We also had to decide on ceremony music, finish writing our vows and do table seating and numbers when we were at about the stage... oh, and put together our placecard/favours (which I did the day before). 

 

And it all worked out perfectly, as I'm sure yours will, too!