Sanity check

lpstl

According to several people I know, I have apparently entered the "nesting" phase of pregnancy. I tried reminding everyone that I was just as neurotic before I got knocked up, but noooo. Apparently since I'm going to give birth, that makes me a bird.

So, as any normal unknocked up person would also do, I'm working on getting my house in order for houseguests this week.

My brother, sister, and mother are coming in town for 4 days. As far as sleeping accommodations go, we have one full sized guest bed and a couch. We have 4 bedrooms, but haven't had a chance to furnish them yet. I want to go out and buy some beds today, even if it's just nice air mattresses, so at least everyone will have their own room. Pete is convinced I am "nesting", have lost my mind, and this is completely unnecessary. It's not a money issue, he just thinks I'm overwhelming myself or something.

Anyways, tell me, amI being nuts?

ac_in_dc

No. You're just buying a couple of air mattresses, right? Big deal. They always come in handy.

sarabellam

No you aren't nuts, and you aren't nesting yet either. I would be doing the same thing in your position.

bbyckes

You're too early to be in the nesting phase.  I think it's natural to want your guests to feel comfortable by having them sleep on something besides the floor.  Tell them to shaddup.

Oh, and you're not nuts.

NicoleSahara

If being a good host is "nesting" then maybe I'm knocked up, too. I have stayed at a place where they bought a bed for me to stay there. Because they needed one for the guest room anyways and this was just motivation for them to get it. You're not crazy

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Nesting doesn't start until several weeks before you give birth. I think it's too early for you. I don't blame you at all for wanting your family to have somewhere to sleep. You're not crazy. Promise.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]If being a good host is "nesting" then maybe I'm knocked up, too. I have stayed at a place where they bought a bed for me to stay there. Because they needed one for the guest room anyways and this was just motivation for them to get it. You're not crazy :)
Posted by NicoleSahara[/QUOTE]

I total agree with Nicole.  It's called being a good host.  Your family will appreicate it. 

lpstl

Thank you sweet justification! I'm totally showing him this thread tonight when I get home with my air matresses.

Bonus: He has to stop telling people I'm "nesting" now too!

sarabellam

FWIW, I didn't start "nesting" until about 3 days before having each of my daughters. And I didn't go through a cleaning phase. Nope, not me. I cooked up a storm so that I had easy to whip-up, nutritous meals handy. What a surprise.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Agree with Nicole. FMIL bought a new pull-out sofa before FI and I visited for the first time so we'd have somewhere decent to sleep. And she's well into menopause. ;-)

I also have a full-sized futon for our one guest room with dedicated sheets, a feather bed mattress topper, and 4 pillows. And I'm certainly not pregnant.

lyndausvi

So where does he expect your family to sleep?  On the floor?

lpstl

Lynda, he figured they would bring sleeping bags. Or 2 would sleep in the bed and one on the couch.

When I told him that was insane he informed me that my family is high maintenance and if they wanted a bed they obviously would have chosen to stay at a hotel.

He camps a lot, and I think he's confusing his camping standards with hosting standards.

tenofcups4me

Dh and I just bought an extra air mattress a few weeks ago when family was staying over. We actully have a guest bed and an extra air mattress -- and they're both in the house we're trying to sell. So we bought another one. I'm not pregnant. That's not nesting. It's being a good host.

cengle

Sounds to me like he's the crazy one.  I agree with everyone else; a point goes in your column here.

janedoe1113a

No, you're being completely normal.

terbear_86

If your company was 10 year old boys, I say let them bring sleeping bags and they can have the floor. If not --- hit up the store girly. Air mattresses are WAY better than nothing.  Everything PP said too --- including the fact that I replaced a couch with no pullout to a pullout one so that I could have my family stay the night for one holiday, and it has come in handy on several occasions since then.