Time between ceremony and reception

[Deleted User]

Did you put that in quotes because you don't want to take responsibility for creating this circumstance? Own your actions without coming off like you're pouting.

ceh789

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_time-between-ceremony-and-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:06b128bc-237a-492d-a15a-11d83169c0eaPost:aeb95b96-28c1-481b-bfb5-5b4dd409573d">Re: Time between ceremony and reception</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Time between ceremony and reception : The reception venue has a bar so I can direct the guest there. Or if they are staying at the golf club cottages they can fresh up in their suites. Thank you for you comment.
Posted by AndreanaD324[/QUOTE]
You're hosting that bar party, yes?<div>
</div><div>How long is your ceremony that you expect people will want to freshen up after it?</div>

redheadfsu

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_time-between-ceremony-and-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:06b128bc-237a-492d-a15a-11d83169c0eaPost:8a3dfe2c-9669-4f82-8409-0fd70182ed8f">Re: Time between ceremony and reception</a>:
[QUOTE]I was feeling a bit down there for a while, but thanks to the last couple of comments I'm able to see a path to a solution.... without feeling like crap about the situation "I got myself into". I will be sure to direct my guests and I'm sure that my family won't mind extra time to get a buzz started.
Posted by AndreanaD324[/QUOTE]

You better be paying for the bar tab. Otherwise you are still being very rude.

daizee32

The only thing I find rude are the commens to the OP.

Treenymph

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_time-between-ceremony-and-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:06b128bc-237a-492d-a15a-11d83169c0eaPost:937797ba-1df8-46b7-b4b8-15d6880d4d83">Re: Time between ceremony and reception</a>:
[QUOTE]The only thing I find rude are the commens to the OP.
Posted by daizee32[/QUOTE]

Well, this <em>is</em> the etiquette board....apparently etiquette is black and white.

Personally I have no big deal with gaps; been to weddings without and weddings with. Everyone works with what they have to have the best day they can. As a guest I go with the flow; I'm just happy to be there.

hollyweenOR

I'm not a huge fan of gaps, but I realize that sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles (esp. with Catholic churches needing to do ceremonies quite early). But it's frustrating, as a guest, to get all duded up, hair and makeup, do the ceremony, and then what? Especially in an unknown town. I don't expect to have someone feeding me/buying me drinks during that time (you don't owe me a day's worth of food & drink just because I'm attending your wedding), but if there's not really anything to do, it's just kind of dead time. I do like the idea of hosting a little cheese & crackers & wine at the hotel before the reception, or if there's something nice that people can do in fancy duds (a museum or something?) nearby, that might be a good direction to go. But having time to kill while trying to keep your clothes looking good? No fun. Your guests will appreciate that you're thinking about this now.

segelpi

A friend of mine had a gap of about 1.5 hrs and the reception was about 45 minutes away. Even though I didn't have to wait very long it was still annoying to try to figure out something to do or just sit there in fancy uncomfortable clothes.

Squishy'sGal

I never said it was ok, I was saying what I did to make it less troublesome for my guests. sometimes it can't be helped.

banana468

i don't understand that something 'can't be helped'.   It's possible but seems unlikely that there are no other options. 

tinstarsunshine

How big is an acceptable gap?  People want to stop and chat as well besides getting from point A to point B. I want to hear what you "no-gap" ladies did if your ceremonies were in a different location than your reception.

kdu1218

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow with a gap that will probably be around 2 hours (excluding travel time between church and reception, as it's actually about 2.5 hours).  I live about 20 minutes from both the church and the reception site, so I'd rather wear a more casual dress in the afternoon (3PM ceremony) and then come home, get changed, and do my hair and makeup more for the reception.  Is it weird to wear two different outfits?  I figure that I'm coming home no matter what in between.