Would you miss it?

sns3

Alcohol that is...
My wedding is on a Sunday in May.  The ceremony starts at 2, and a late lunch/early dinner will be served around 3:30.  We are having a champagne toast later on, but that's it for alcohol.  There are only a few people that would drink if it was available, so FI thinks we should skip it since we would have to do a per person, not per drink package with our venue.  I'm just worried about making my guests comfortable.  Advice?

louisvillebride21

PERSONALLY, I don't mind there not being alcohol any time (and yes, I do drink). But I think you're especially good since it's a Sunday afternoon wedding.

Nebb

I dont think sunday afternoon is a big drinking time, for most people.

scoetto

No I don't think so. I've been to weddings where it wasn't served at all, and weddings where it was WAY over served. I think I had more fun at the dry one. A Champagne toast is fine.

opalsky007

Not really. I rarely drink that early in the day, so I think you're safe.

If you want, you could offer some other cool drink choices like flavored lemonades and iced teas to distract people away from not having alcohol. That would most likely be very affordable, but elegant.

FutureMrsTR

I wouldn't have a problem with it because I rarely drink.  I think you're ok since it's a Sunday afternoon.  Could your venue maybe make a vodka punch or mimosas to serve as a signature drink for those who may want something?  Or add some peach schnapps to the champagne and have belinis

AlexiaANDRobert

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[QUOTE]Not really. I rarely drink that early in the day, so I think you're safe. If you want, you could offer some other cool drink choices like flavored lemonades and iced teas to distract people away from not having alcohol. That would most likely be very affordable, but elegant.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

I agree and think this is a great idea!

btrflykate1230

I like Opal's idea too! Some nice raspberry lemonade and flavored iced teas would be a great addition!

ac_in_dc

My alcoholic friends and I would totally miss it. But from the sound of PPs we may be in your minority. Do you have a sense of how much your crowd likes to drink at events like this?

ThePinkSuperhero

I think your plan sounds lovely.

lyndausvi

sadly yes.  But my friends all get together every Sunday and have cocktails and cook out.   It would make my Sunday feel off.

sns3

Thank you all for the quick responses.  We are offering unlimited raspberry, and kiwi lemonade.  As well as peach and raspberry ice tea (plus regular tea) and sodas.  The thing is we are expecting 75ish guests, mostly family and close friends and FI and I could think of 6 people that drink regularly.  We just didn't want to make them uncomfortable.  I guess since the reception will end around 9pm they can go get a drink afterwards.

Thanks again!

FutureMrsTR

Eating at 3:30 and it ends at 9?  I hope you're having a snack or something later because I can't go 5 hours without eating something and I doubt most people would want to.

britne28

Love Opals idea.  Half my guests would miss it but if you know your crowd you should be fine.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]Thank you all for the quick responses.  <strong>We are offering unlimited raspberry, and kiwi lemonade.  As well as peach and raspberry ice tea (plus regular tea) and sodas.</strong>  The thing is we are expecting 75ish guests, mostly family and close friends and FI and I could think of 6 people that drink regularly.  We just didn't want to make them uncomfortable.  I guess since the reception will end around 9pm they can go get a drink afterwards. Thanks again!
Posted by sns3[/QUOTE]

YUM!

scoetto

That sounds like a pretty long reception without any alcohol. Don't be surprised if it ends early, no offense.

tenofcups4me

Well yes I would miss it and I'm surprised so many people are saying they wouldn't.  I've only once in my life attended a wedding that didn't have alcohol so it would be very noticeable to me.

SaraAndrew2010

If you had alcohol I would definitely have a glass of wine or mimosa or something like that.  I would notice if you didn't have alcohol, but I wouldn't be too bothered by it.  I'd be a lot more bothered if it were a Friday or Saturday evening reception with no alcohol.

ZoeTheDog

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[QUOTE]My alcoholic friends and I would totally miss it. But from the sound of PPs we may be in your minority. Do you have a sense of how much your crowd likes to drink at events like this?
Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

I guess drinking is no longer PC from the looks of the answers you got...

When my cousin got married on a Sunday in the summer, the girl's family said per their religion (I don't remember what she is) they couldn't drink so they would not be providing any alcohol.

My uncle then paid for the open bar himself.  Otherwise, my family would probably have been very unhappy. 

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you miss it? : I guess drinking is no longer PC from the looks of the answers you got...
Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]

This comment makes NO sense.  No one is telling her she <em>shouldn't</em> have alcohol, we're just saying we would be sitting around thing, "ZOMG, I need a drink, I can't believe they don't have booze here!!11!!1!!"

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you miss it? :<strong> I guess drinking is no longer PC from the looks of the answers you got...</strong> When my cousin got married on a Sunday in the summer, the girl's family said per their religion (I don't remember what she is) they couldn't drink so they would not be providing any alcohol. My uncle then paid for the open bar himself.  Otherwise, my family would probably have been very unhappy. 
Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]

Huh? Not un-PC, just not vital to the success of a Sunday afternoon event.

AlexiaANDRobert

I think the date, and time, make it different than not having booze on a Saturday evening wedding.

On a Sunday afternoon, I'd love of a glass of wine, but I'm not going to miss it AS MUCH as if it were on a Saturday night.

squirrly

Honestly, I probably would.  I'd still come, and I'd still have fun, but it would change the atmosphere of the event for me.  Have you talked to your venue about having wine and paying by the bottle?  Or, having mimosas? 

If there's no drinking, especially at an afternoon wedding, I'm not sticking around for 6 hours at the reception.  I'll stay for an hour or so after dinner and cake, but unless it turns into a rockin' party, I'd probably slip out after that.  I just can't bring myself to sit around and sip water and do NOTHING for 4 extra hours.

scoetto

Friday night or Saturday night I would expect alcohol. Sunday afternoon in May, not so much. Nothing un-PC about it. It's just not necessary for that time.

AlexiaANDRobert

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I probably would.  I'd still come, and I'd still have fun, but it would change the atmosphere of the event for me.  Have you talked to your venue about having wine and paying by the bottle?  Or, having mimosas?  If there's no drinking, especially at an afternoon wedding, I'm not sticking around for 6 hours at the reception.  I'll stay for an hour or so after dinner and cake, but unless it turns into a rockin' party, I'd probably slip out after that.  I just can't bring myself to sit around and sip water and do NOTHING for 4 extra hours.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

Oh wow, I missed the LENGTH of the reception.

Yeah, I agree with this.

ZoeTheDog

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you miss it? : Huh? Not un-PC, just not vital to the success of a Sunday afternoon event.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

Yes but it's not Sunday at 11am.  It's 3:30p.  I think I would think it strange if there was no alcohol.  Sunday or even Saturday morning I could understand. 

I actually think more importantly, if OP thinks only 6 out of 75 people are going to miss it, then it's not necessary at all.  But those 6 people might think it strange. 

opalsky007

Are you actually reading any of our responses, Zoe? PC= Politically correct, as in inoffensive. No one has said that it's offensive to have alcohol at this event, no matter how many times you try to put those words in our mouths. Some of us have simply stated that we wouldn't mind not having alcohol available on a Sunday afternoon. Others, including yourself, disagree. That's fine.

MyNameIsNot

I would miss it.  Of course, I'd get over it and have a good time anyway.  But I don't dance without a drink first, and I don't think that's uncommon.  I agree w/PP, I'd probably stick around for an hour after the meal, and then I'd head out.

mandybear7

I like wine with dinner, especially at a formal occasion.

sns3

Woops, I meant to type 7 not 9. Yea I would need a drink after a 6 hour dry reception and I never drink!  Thanks for the input.  I think we are going to skip the alcohol, unless our venue changes their minds about the price thing and lets us pay per bottle of wine/beer.

scoetto

330-7 is way a way better reception time with no alcohol being served. Just let your guests know ahead of time that it will be a dry reception, if you're really that worried about it. Maybe they can go get a fix between the ceremony and reception if they really need it that bad.