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To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?
My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not.
Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you.
The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc.
Please give me your thoughts
Thanks
Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you.
The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc.
Please give me your thoughts
Thanks
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Re: To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?
I don't really get the sentiment that your bachelor/ette party is your last night out. You are in a serious committed relationship, so it's not like you can go out and bang every guy you see.
I will be wearing mine proudly!
The man not wearing a ring has nothing to do with it. If those people have an issue with their FI not wearing an e-ring, that's something they need to discuss with their FI.
[QUOTE]My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not. <strong>Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you.</strong> The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc. Please give me your thoughts Thanks
Posted by kittykatkoo[/QUOTE]
Um, the bolded? Is lame. So what if it's your last night out? It's not as if you're going to go crazy and hook up with a bunch of guys and legit pretend to be single because it's your "last night".
And if you're going to use the whole "a man doesn't wear a ring" argument, then why have an e-ring at all. Seriously.
To more directly answer your question: I never even considered NOT wearing my e-ring every day I was engaged, including the day of my b-party.
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I've never heard of not wearing it for the b-party. Even though it was "my last night out", I'm still committed and wearing or not wearing my ring woudln't change anything.
Unless you're planning on getting wild and worrying about losing it if you wear it? I don't know how crazy you're planning on getting. I wore mine and I would wear mine again.
I wore it proudly to my bach. party. And despite it being "my last night out" as an unmarried woman, I turned down drinks from other men and dances with other men. Bachelorette party doesn't mean you're suddenly single for the evening...
I never take my engagement or wedding rings off. I'm perfectly content with my husband and have no desire to be something I'm not.
If I had purposely left my e-ring off for my b-party pretty sure it would have raised some eyebrows. Your last night out as a single woman was the last night you went out before you and your FI started seriously dating; because every time after that: e-ring, wedding ring, or no ring; you were/are taken.
Really dumb question. I hope you aren't considering this....
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I would never even consider going to my own B-Party without my E-ring.
And FI wears an e-ring too.
1.) to not be discriminated against for a job interview (yes it happens despite being illegal)
2.) to cheat on their SO
Go ahead and hide your ring if you want every single person who sees you to assume you are trying to accomplish goal #2. Including your FI.
So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right.
I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.
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[QUOTE]My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not. Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you. The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc. Please give me your thoughts Thanks
Posted by kittykatkoo[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]People hide rings for two reasons: 1.) to not be discriminated against for a job interview (yes it happens despite being illegal) 2.) to cheat on their SO Go ahead and hide your ring if you want every single person who sees you to assume you are trying to accomplish goal #2. Including your FI.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>I took mine off for my bachelorette - but instead of barhopping, my girls took me to a go kart racing track they booked for me and I was worried about something happening to it. I totally would have worn it if we had gone to a bar though. </div>
To me, this is totally different from what the OP is talking about. You presumably would've removed your ring to go go karting regardless of whether or not the event was designated as your bach party. You weren't removing it so you could "enjoy your last night as a single girl," you were removing it based on common sense concerns about the safety of the ring. What you did seems fine to me. What OP is suggesting does not.
[QUOTE]I actually do take my e-ring off in certain circumstances. It's on the tight side, which is fine for regular wear, but when working out my fingers swell. So I rarely/never wear it when working out. In addition, it's a solitaire that's set really high, so I take it off before bed. FWIW, I always wear my wedding band except in the shower, but obviously before we were married there were certain times I'd take the e-ring off. So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right. <strong>I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.
</strong>Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]
Me too Meegles! I'd love to hear her opinion now!!!
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[QUOTE]I actually do take my e-ring off in certain circumstances. It's on the tight side, which is fine for regular wear, but when working out my fingers swell. So I rarely/never wear it when working out. In addition, it's a solitaire that's set really high, so I take it off before bed. FWIW, I always wear my wedding band except in the shower, but obviously before we were married there were certain times I'd take the e-ring off. So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right. I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]
Yes, I take off my ring to sleep and bake, etc. Which is why I phrased things the way I did. I said people HIDE their rings for those reasons. Which is what the OP is talking about doing.
you are engaged. wear your e-ring as you normally would. now if you normally dont wear it to bars, then take it off.
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[QUOTE]this is about as silly to me as people that buy fake "placeholder" rings to wear on their honeymoon so theri real ones dont get lost/stolen. you are engaged. wear your e-ring as you normally would. now if you normally dont wear it to bars, then take it off.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]
<div>Why are placeholder rings silly? </div><div>
</div><div>I used my honeymoon time as the week to send my e-ring and wedding band off to get soldered (soddered? spelling that word screws me up) together, and wore a different ring of mine during our honeymoon in mexico. I figured it was the best time since it was right after the wedding and needed to be done AND that way nothing could happen to my real ring, like getting lost, stolen, or broken while out of the country. But, I still wanted to look married, so I wore a "placeholder" ring. </div>