Rant: Invitations and Friends who are on their way out feel free to give me your two cents!

emmalearocks

Thanks for everyone's input much appreciated

nda_roxybabe

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rant-invitations-friends-their-way-out-feel-give-two-cents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:08100653-389b-428b-a557-b10cc9685278Post:49012274-fac0-461a-8780-1c5d4b7a61fd">Rant: Invitations and Friends who are on their way out feel free to give me your two cents!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sorry if this has been covered in a past post, but I'd like to canvass some other opinions.  I invited a friend  that I really do not consider a close friend anymore out of respect.  And I made it very clear that only she was invited.  The invitation was addressed to her only and the RSVP was filled in with her name only.  Today she asks if her live in boyfriend is invited.  Is there anyway that I could have made it any clearer? Read on if you'd like the gory details! Background: I have a friend Sarah who I have known for over 10 years.  We have other mutual friends who I am significantly closer to, and talk with on a more regular basis.    Everytime Sarah is in a relationship she drops off the face of the earth.  And no friend wants to be sloppy seconds.  To give you some perspective, I have spoken to her 6 times in the last 3 years.  She has been dating/living with her current boyfriend for a year and I have met him twice for a total of 3 hours.  Many of us actually believe that he will come out of the closet but that is off topic! Issue:  -I sent out STDs when we were first engaged and I sent her one.  -Fast forward 11 months and invitation roll out arrives. -I decided to bow to ettiquette and sent her an invitation.  -The invitation was addressed to her and her only and the RSVP card was filled in with her name. -Today, she emails to ask if she gets a plus one....HONESTLY! I know that there are some that are following ettiquette and feel that it dictates that if someone is living with their boyfriend that the SO should be invited too.  I do not know him and I really don't care to share my day with him in our presence.  Frankly, Sarah and I have grown apart and I wouldn't be torn up if she didn't come. I'm just exasperated.  Anyone want to give me pointers on how to respond? I'm almost finding this whole exchange humourous. OY VEY! Thank you for reading.  I just needed to vent more than anything.
Posted by emmalearocks[/QUOTE]
Honestly? I feel that her BF of one year should be invited

Knittibell

Yeah, sorry- you're in the wrong on this one, I think. She lives with him- it's not a casual thing- so they should be invited as a couple. Let her bring the +1 and let that be a lesson for you!

mica178

Ditto the PPs.

quotequeen

Please don't delete your posts.  You've been quoted and it just makes you look like you didn't get the answers you wanted and decided to take your ball and go home.

[Deleted User]

Whenever someone DDs after not being validated, I immediately hear Cartman's "Whatevah! I do what I want!" shouting in my head. I need an image of that to post every time it happens.

LD1970

Whether you deleted your post or not, you were wrong.

Thing is, I think you know you're wrong and you're just hoping that it eggs her into RSVPing "no" so you can feel like you're on the higher moral ground since you invited her and she "chose" not to come.  You're not on the higher moral ground, though.  Your invitation sans +1 was insulting and rude.

kathrynhabibti

[QUOTE]Whenever someone DDs after not being validated, I immediately hear Cartman's "Whatevah! I do what I want!" shouting in my head. I need an image of that to post every time it happens.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Edited as I found out how to add PIP :^)

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