Date setting dilemma

agreen831

My Fiance's parents had a vacation planned and paid for, for next summer before we were even engaged. And going with them are OOT relatives we really want at the wedding. I'm having a hard time on how much weight this should have when setting our wedding date.  

mwhitson14

Um, I'm thinking you need to not have your date near their vacation! I'm sure your FI would want his parents there!

IS that what you're asking??

katiewhompus

Yeah if you want to maintain any sort of positive relationship planning a wedding around their vacation is not a good way to go about it.

Is there a particular reason you have to have it during the summer? How long is their vacation?

agreen831

I live in Washington State so that's why I'm thinking summer. The vacation is just one week. My main worries are the finances for my FI's parents and the OOT relatives needing to essentially plan a second vacation.

alexirom

Could you do a fall wedding?

Calypso1977

i dont htink you need to put your life on hold because they have a vacation. 

i think you are ok as long as you avoid the month taht the vacation will be taking place.  the vacation is already paid for - so that gives them all winter to save up whatever they wil need to get there for the few days of your wedding.  it should be minimal cost - 2-3 nights in a hotel max, and maybe flights.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Where do they live?

And I would DEFINITELY plan my wedding at a time when my FI's family would be able to make it. You plan your date around your VIP guests, which are usually parents, siblings, and sometimes MOH and best man.