Okay, I'm not sure what to do here and I wanted some advice. Please help! My husband and I just got married in out of town. We went alone and we're having a big reception when we return in a week. Here's my problem. One of my good friends is dating a man I CAN NOT stand to be around. And I do not want him at my reception. Normally, I would never dream of telling my friends they couldn't invite someone to my wedding reception. However, let me share with you my reasons as to why I can't stomach the thought of him being there.
First off, they have broken up about 15 times. In the two years they've been together he has....cheated on her more times that I can count, vandalized her car numerous times, drained her bank account several times to go gamble, used her credit card to pay for a trip to go see another woman, locked her out of their home and boarded the windows so she couldn't get in, thrown her out of the house naked and dumped all her clothes in a lake. All of these things are bad enough but the thing I refuse to get over is the fact that he hits her! He has hit her several times and left her with bruises and a black eye.
She knows my feelings toward him. I've made it very clear to her that I can not stand the sight of him and will never accept them together. All of her friends have told her that. He makes everyone uncomfortable. And when I sent out invitations, I did not invite her with a guest. Because I did not want him there. However, I know she is still planning on bringing him. How do I handle this? On one hand, I think I should just suck it up and avoid a fight with her and let her bring him. On the other hand, I can not stomach the fact that if he is there, it's like my husband and I are paying for him to eat, drink and party all night. And that just makes me sick. What should I do?
