Not really etiquette related... possibly dumb question, lol

renatari

All the weddings I have attended have had buffets. We're having a buffet. I just realized at the last wedding that I have never seen the bride at the buffet line/eating. Do we not eat?! lol If so, do the bride & groom go first or last?

alixzafiris

I had a plated dinner and I swear I had about three bites. I was going round greeting/talking/thanking/hosting people all during food time.

opalsky007

Often times, you have a staff member make up a plate for you.

Ghoti

The last buffet I went to, the wedding party went first. Not sure of the etiquette on that though. 

MelissaAnne88

Our venue's staff made up plates for me and DH that were waiting for us whenever we sat down. Which was not often.

aragx6

I've only been to one wedding with a buffet and the bride and groom got their plates first, then the honor attendants and parents, and then they staggered allowing the 200+ guests to go through the one buffet line. Tables at the back didn't get to eat until well over 1 1/2 hours into the reception.

So as long you don't do that, you'll be fine!

midgetthemighty

I think it's always that the bride/groom attempt to eat but greeting and being the center of attention can sometimes get in the way. I am going to try my best to not let this happen. Baby bird has to eat! lol

Most of the buffet weddings I've been to, the bride and groom get their own food. I've seen it where the guests have to wait for the bride and groom to go first in the line. I've also seen it where guests get to start eating but when the bridal party/bride and groom show up, they get to cut in the front of the line.

The second one is what I'm thinking of doing so my guests aren't starving and we can get to dancing faster!

aragx6

The best advice is to try and have a pre-ceremony snack. I've heard of girls being so busy and/or nervous that they don't eat all day. That's a recipe for disaster.

noodle_oo

We had a buffet and we absolutely ate!  We just went along with our guests.  People were kind of shy about being the first ones at the buffet.  But as soon as we started walking over, other people did.  We made sure to eat and I *tried* to enjoy it, but I honestly didn't even really taste the food.  It is so busy, your mind is just racing and the whole thing is pretty much a blur afterwards!!

But, yes, of course you eat!!  You guys could go first and start the buffet. You'll be hungry, so you definitely want to eat!

DramaGeek

Ditto everyone else - a plate was made for us and H and I took a private moment in another room and ate then.  We didn't eat much, but we did eat.

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not really etiquette related... possibly dumb question, lol : I stopped at Jimmy Johns on the way to the church with my MOH.  Poor H didn't eat lunch.  I felt bad.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

I could totally go for a Vito before I get hitched :P

ast.meghan

I've seen two ways to do.  In one wedding I was in, the bride, groom and all the attendants at the head table had plated meals and then the rest of the guests went through the buffet line.  At another wedding I was not in, the bride and groom and their attendants went first and then everyone else followed.  I say do whatever you want!

arbolita

Schedule a pizza to be delivered to your hotel room (of wherever you're staying) after the reception - we barely got to eat during the reception, and I was STARVING by the time we got to our hotel.  Having a pizza welcoming me was awesome.

daftmagpie

 I was MOH for one of my friend's wedding in December. I noticed they hadnt eaten a bite all night so I grabbed the catering manager and had him pack them both up a doggy bag then slid it into their car at the end of the night. She called me the next day and said thank you. Her and her H got to have their wedding dinner when they could relax and enjoy it.   I plan on doing the same thing at my wedding if its crazy and we don't have time to grab more then a bite or two. Just be sure to either have them keep it warm or pick something that wont spoil for your to go bags. giving them food poisoning on their wedding night would have been a monster fail.

kw44932

You should definitely try to eat! I've seen it done a few of the ways mentioned: a server will make you a plate from the buffet before the rest of the guests are invited to the buffet, the entire BP gets a plated meal while the others are invited to the buffet, or the bride and groom are the first through the buffet line.   Either way is fine I think, just make sure you take a few minutes to sit with your new hubby and enjoy the moment

thesequel

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[QUOTE]The best advice is to try and have a pre-ceremony snack. I've heard of girls being so busy and/or nervous that they don't eat all day. That's a recipe for disaster.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>Especially if you are planning on drinking!</div>

libbyloutoo

Every wedding I've been to that was buffet had the head table (inc. bride and groom) go up first to get their food
The rest of the tables followed and the B&G got to eat
I TOTALLY intend to eat at my wedding, I am not paying all that money to miss out on the chef carved roast!

mizjodi

I'm actually assigning the task of making sure I eat, and eat well, throughout the day to my PA!

elizabethjane25

one of my bridesmaids declared herself in charge of making me eat, so she will be taking care of that for me. i didn't ask her to, but she is married and knows that i will not have much time to eat, so she wants her job to be feeding me! in your case, i would see if the staff will prepare a plate for you, or ask your mom to grab you something even! 

jmkaiser

We are having a buffet but doing family style at the head table....that way we don't have to stand in line and can maybe eat a little:) see if that's an option.

dannie134

We also had a buffet, and the staff directed us to go first through the buffet line.  That worked well, because we had a quick moment to sit at our sweetheart table together and eat a little before we started trying to make the rounds to the tables.  My only regret is I didn't eat much because I was too excited - everyone said our prime rib was really really good, and I didn't even taste it! I did manage to eat some ravioli, chicken and veggies though and was glad I had a little something.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]The best advice is to try and have a pre-ceremony snack. I've heard of girls being so busy and/or nervous that they don't eat all day. That's a recipe for disaster.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

Unfortunately, this never happens to me.

I ate most of my dinner. It was sit-down and we were served first, then we scarfed it so we could do table visits. I believe they wil just make you a plate if you have a buffet so you can eat ASAP.