Engagment invites

JenneBeth

My fiance and I are planning our engagement party and we are TRYING to save some money. So the question is, Is it ok to send invites via Facebook event or email?

squirrly

An engagement party is not properly hosted by the bride and groom.  If someone decides to host a party for you, they can send invites, but I wouldn't recommend using Facebook.

If you and your FI want to host a party, feel free to do so, but you shouldn't host a party in honor of yourselves.  Just host a party.

banana468

Well, technically you shouldn't host your own engagement party at all.   It's inappropriate etiquette to host any party in honor of yourself.

So throw a get together but not an engagement party.

If you want that get together to be really casual then FB may be OK but it can also be risky.  When DH and I throw casual get togethers we just use a mass email.

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp. You should not be throwing your own engagement party.

JenneBeth

My mom is hosting it and more or less planning it she just wants my input.

MyNameIsNot

[QUOTE]<strong>My fiance and I are planning our engagement party </strong>and <strong>we are TRYING to save some money</strong>. So the question is, Is it ok to send invites via Facebook event or email?
Posted by JenneBeth[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]<strong>My mom is hosting it and more or less planning it</strong> she just wants my input.
Posted by JenneBeth[/QUOTE]

<div>Uh?  </div><div>
</div><div>If your mom is hosting it, it's up to her to figure out how to do invitations.  But I'd be really surprised that anyone in her generation would think that FB is an appropriate way to send a party invitation.  </div>

gailpete

I wouldn't use Facebook for invites. Email would be OK, but it needs to come from your mother, and not you or your FI.  Also, make sure it matches the over feel of the party.  Email is OK for a casual party, but a more formal event should have mailed invitations.

strlzfan11

I agree that a more formal party deserves a paper invite, but if the party is going to be casual you might want to consider an evite.  My sister has used evites for various things (Twilight party, her son's baptism) and it has worked well every time.  It's a more formal way of setting up a FB event.

Catwoman708

If your mom is hosting, the invitations are up to her.  For an informal party, informal invites are OK, but mailed invites are more proper.  Do not use FB, it always leads to confusion and people inviting themselves, or getting all upset they weren't invited.

Keep in mind that it's generally considered unmannerly to invite guests to prewedding events and not the wedding.  Are you sure you will be inviting all these people to the wedding later on?

banana468

Definitely no FB for a party your mom is hosting.

nfp147

My sister (MOH) hosted an engagement party for us at the same restaurant we are having our reception.  Because she lives halfway across the country and doesn't have address/email addresses or a complete list of all of our friends, she used FB to find friends and pass on the message.

Ettiquette rules are nice, but sometimes they're a bit out-dated.  No one at our party was offended by being contacted or invited via FB.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_engagment-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0a520002-41bb-44cf-b778-6901ba9f984fPost:2204f8e4-9d88-4063-863f-1f735eae3f9c">Re: Engagment invites</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree that a more formal party deserves a paper invite, but if the party is going to be casual you might want to consider an evite.  My sister has used evites for various things (Twilight party, her son's baptism) and it has worked well every time.  It's a more formal way of setting up a FB event.
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

I use evite quite a bit, but it's certainly much more casual. Most people won't bother to RSVP, so if it's a cocktail party, that's fine. If it's a dinner party, you might want real invitations.