To Money Dance or not to Money Dance?

erikac0401

Wondering what people thought of this tradition. My fiancee is slightly horrified at the idea of this, but friends tell me it's no big deal and to just do it, that it's really common. I have reservations but also think we could use that money for our honeymoon!!

Anyone doing the dance or not doing it??? Thoughts? Tackiness factor?

andyandhillary

Tacky.  You should never dance for money either at weddings or on a pole. 

melissamc2

I'm only ok with it if it's on a pole, actually.   Or a lap.  So, I guess there are two options.

kikibaby

I think the general consensus around here is ususally that it's tacky, BUT if it's common in your circle, do what you want.  So, if your guests expect it, go for it.  If you don't usually see it done at weddings you go to, skip it.

Lyss5782

Never heard of it before theknot.  Once I did hear of it, I thought it was the most disgusting thing ever.  That being said, if its so "common" by you, I guess its not that big a deal. 

FutureMrsDudley55

We didn't do one, and no one noticed. We weren't comfortable doing one.

psichick

it's pretty tacky. 

andy71781

Its tacky and money grabby.  Let your guests keep their dollar bills.

*BeachBride0410*

I have heard of it, but never seen it.  I think its extremely tacky....

MissLeahM

Its common in my area and I still think its tacky.. Its just so .. stripperish.

So now the battle is on with my mother on NOT having it. :S

So my vote is definitely with 'skip it' because if your FI has never heard of it, then more than likely his side of the family hasn't heard of it either and thats about 1/2 of the party.

danieliza1127

We did one and I know Fische here did one BUT if your FI is horrified by it, don't do it.    That alone tells me it's not very common for his group/family and they will probably find it very tacky.

FutureMrsDudley55

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-not-money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0aa948cf-da46-4246-be6e-e8db3e549daaPost:1f09c963-c775-48c3-9003-779a2907340a">Re: To Money Dance or not to Money Dance?</a>:
[QUOTE]We did one and I know Fische here did one BUT if you're <strong>FI is horrified by it, don't do it</strong>.    That alone tells me it's not very common for his group/family and they will probably find it very tacky.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

That's how my DH was about it.

strlzfan11

If dollar dances are common and expected in your circle then it's ok in my book, but since your FI has a strong opinion about it, I would suggest that you a) don't do it at all, or b) only have guests dance with you.

JanoBean75

I'm horrified at the thought. FI and my parents are insisting that we do it. Why? It's "FUN!"

Ugh.

quotequeen

The only possible justification for it is that it's part of your culture and expected by your family, and they will be very disappointed if you don't do it.

Doing it because you want the money is unbelievably tacky.

*BeachBride0410*

My mother was just at a wedding where they did a dollar dance.  It last for a hour & 30 min.  I mean seriously?  You would make your guests sit through that?  Watching you dance with person after person.

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-not-money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0aa948cf-da46-4246-be6e-e8db3e549daaPost:d2431973-3321-406c-a6bb-06c821b18da7">Re: To Money Dance or not to Money Dance?</a>:
[QUOTE]My mother was just at a wedding where they did a dollar dance.  It last for a hour & 30 min.  I mean seriously?  You would make your guests sit through that?  Watching you dance with person after person.
Posted by *BeachBride0410*[/QUOTE]

WHAT?!  Now that is tacky and crazy. It should only last for maybe 2 songs max.

mef1183

Like others have said, if your FI is horrified you could probably just skip it.  I went to a wedding this weekend where they did one, and I had never seen it before.  Everyone at my table just kind of looked at each other like "really? Didn't I just drop off a card with money in it in that card box?"

LesPaul

No.  It's tacky and money-grabby.  And uncomfortable for guests to watch.  Don't do it.

ricksang

I never understood the stripperish response. Strippers get undressed and grind and gyrate for money that is stuffed in a garter belt. Money dances usually include a bride wearing a wedding gown who slow dances for a min. with someone while they pin money to the bride's dress.

That being said, if your FI is horrified be the idea, skip it.

*BeachBride0410*

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-not-money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0aa948cf-da46-4246-be6e-e8db3e549daaPost:b53a5a7c-75b7-4952-8173-ce3fe09f7076">Re: To Money Dance or not to Money Dance?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Money Dance or not to Money Dance? : WHAT?!  Now that is tacky and crazy. It should only last for maybe 2 songs max.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Your telling me...and it was people wanting to dance with the bride...

kikibaby

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-not-money-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0aa948cf-da46-4246-be6e-e8db3e549daaPost:cded12b3-6f20-40f2-858f-5fa7a5f4e893">Re: To Money Dance or not to Money Dance?</a>:
[QUOTE]I never understood the stripperish response. <strong>Strippers get undressed and grind and gyrate for money that is stuffed in a garter belt. Money dances usually include a bride wearing a wedding gown who slow dances for a min.</strong> with someone while they pin money to the bride's dress. That being said, if your FI is horrified be the idea, skip it.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

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Celles

If your fiance is horrified by it, don't do it.  It's his wedding too.

ricksang

OMG kiki you didn't know? Clearly your marriage will fail j/k 

kikibaby

Doomed!  hehe

Birdie1483

It's common in my area and no big deal for people around here. But we also have more informal weddings here - no assigned seating, buffets instead of plated dinners, etc. It's Kentuckiana, what can I say? We're lucky if Uncle Bob remembers to wear pants to the reception.

The only time I've ever disliked a dollar dance was the first time I went to a wedding where one was done. I was the BM's date and didn't know anyone else. The dollar dance went on for well over an hour and my date had to stand up there and collect the money the entire time. I ended up with my own bottle of Malibu at the table by myself.

In most instances the "dancers" ended up being the bride and groom's close friends and family. If I don't know someone well enough I won't do it and nobody really judges me for that. We're usually socializing on the sidelines and not really paying attention anyways.

soontobehimes

It's common around here. We did it, but I wouldn't have been able to make it through if I wasn't already drunk by that point! It was actually pretty fun, though. I wouldn't do it if your fiance doesn't want to, though.

Galaxy8227

If FI is uncomfortable with it, I'd skip it.  It's not common in our area, I've seen it once and thought it was beyond tacky. 

skippylouwho

It just screams HOOKER to me... getting paid to dance with people?  

LoveBugBaby

I've always heard this is a Polish tradition at weddings, so unless you have a very Polish family that understands the traditional dance, then skip it.  I think it comes off as money-hungry and selfish.  Your guests bring a gift for you, why expect them to be shelling out dollar bills on top of it?  Very tacky...

tlv204

Like others said, if EVERYONE coming is used to them, they're fine, but if even your FI hates the idea I would skip it. I can't stand them, particularly when friends of mine who I previously thought had good sense say things like "I better see you on that floor with at least a $10 on our wedding day!"  Umm, I think I gave you enough money in the check I wrote, thank you very much.