Kids?

karenwjackm

So I've heard of having a no-kids policy, but honestly, I want kids at my wedding, some of my favorite people are my 5 neices and nephew under the age of 5.  However, I don't think we really have the money to invite ALL of the children of our friends.  What do you think about inviting some children but not others (those of more distant friends)?

WildRumpus

Seriously? Scroll down. Read.

nda_roxybabe

Jill- you stole the words out of my mouth except I just scrolled and didn't really find anything (oddly)

If you invite some kids and not others teh families of those other kids will wonder why their child was not invited.
Will your nieces and nephews be in the wedding party?

WildRumpus

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-7

Here...page 2

nda_roxybabe

Hhaha I was just about to post that one.

I'm surprised there aren't more on this page (for once)

WildRumpus

OP...I'm not TRYING to be a bitch, but this question is asked at least once a day. Scrolling through or using the search bar helps cut down on the repeat posts.

Goldlie11

I know that this question does get asked everyday (usually more than once a day), but I don't understand why it's a problem to invite kids who you are related to (i.e cousins, nieces, and nephews) and tell your friends that their kids aren't invited.  Your friends' children are not your family members.  

WildRumpus

Goldie, I don't know that it's a problem, but I'd definitely give it the side eye.

shellydiane820

I don't give the side eye to inviting immediate family's children.  There's a difference.  The only kids at our wedding were Nick's nieces, and that was a non-negotiable thing.  Plus, we're a lot closer to them and not second cousin susie's little kid.

brookelynpaisley

It just seems somewhat unfair when you invite some kids and not others, even though they're family. I'd be a little put off by it personally. I wouldn't make a big deal or say anything to the bride, but if I was told I couldn't bring my (future) children and then showed up and there were a bunch of kids, yeah, that would kind of suck. Presumably, I'd have to spend the money for a babysitter, but these people didn't have to. Then again, I think people should welcome a night out with kids. Then again, I understand that weddings are about the joining of families, so family members who are kids should be included. Clearly, I haven't chosen a side of the fence.

WildRumpus

Brooke said what I was thinking, just much more eloquently

shellydiane820

hmm, to each his own I suppose.

brookelynpaisley

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0c81198d-4fbb-4ef3-b714-cb400e59bb1dPost:e459cbd8-dd7b-4f2b-b918-0be524fe457b">Re: Kids?</a>:
[QUOTE]hmm, to each his own I suppose.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I'm sure for some circles, even, it simply wouldn't work. We wanted no kids as well, and my parents wouldn't stand for it.

I see both sides. You have to do what works for you and stand your ground no matter what you choose.

shellydiane820

Our thing is (no exaggeration here) if we invited kids with our cutoff (2nd cousins) it would double the guest list.

I probably wouldn't have invited the nieces (as much as I love them)  but that was one thing Nick wouldn't stand for, which I can see his point of view.

Goldlie11

The only kids will be my nieces who are OOT.  They will be 15 (not really a kid), 11, and 9 at the time of my wedding.  We are inviting are inviting a few teenage cousins, and second cousins.  

If people do inquire as to why we did this, we'll be honest.  We are keeping the wedding very intimate (inviting no more than 70 people).  

sucrets4

We invited family kids but no friend kids.  A lot of our family was oot, though.  However, I don't think there is anything wrong with making a clear line of family kids only.  It's when you start picking and choosing specific kids where things can get messy and feelings can get hurt.

nda_roxybabe

I'm balancing up on the fence with Brooke

shellydiane820

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0c81198d-4fbb-4ef3-b714-cb400e59bb1dPost:4cbedca6-9fa6-4a38-8fc1-88bf707e7268">Re: Kids?</a>:
[QUOTE]We invited family kids but no friend kids.  A lot of our family was oot, though.  However, I don't think there is anything wrong with making a clear line of family kids only.  It's when you start picking and choosing specific kids where things can get messy and feelings can get hurt.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]


That's along the lines of our rule, except, they are the only nieces, my sister doesn't have any kids.