PArty timing

JVillella

I posted this in Pre-Wedding Parties but only got 2 responses.

My sister is throwing me a bachelorette party. She wants my input on what to do since I do not like bars. My dad has a lake home and I would like to have it there. If its nice, we can be outside and grill and have a bonfire. If its not nice, there's plenty of room inside to have games and just hang out. My dilemma is that if we do it out there I would want it in August because its more likely it will be nice out, but my wedding isnt until December. Is August too soon for a Bachelorette party for a December wedding?
My sister is fine with the party being at the lake in August if thats what I want. My dad has also agreed to let me have it at his lake home. My MOH is also out of town and works in a school which would be another good reason to have it in August.

HandBanana

A bachelorette weekend will automatically exclude a lot of people and you can not hold that against them.  Requesting an entire weekend (which is what I assume you are doing) is a lot.

If you do decide to do this, I would keep it to WP only.

I think it is too early but I would understand doing it as long as you didn't throw another bachelorette party in November or December.

aragx6

It is a bit earlier than most people have their bachelorette parties, but if it's what makes the most sense I think you're fine to go for it.

brilibby4

If that works best for everyone then I see no problem with it.

aragx6

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_party-timing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0d6efcbc-9a2a-435c-bbdc-6ecf75c5ba14Post:aa92195b-3811-4722-8963-47d1a2c218d9">Re: PArty timing</a>:
[QUOTE]A bachelorette weekend will automatically exclude a lot of people and you can not hold that against them.  Requesting an entire weekend (which is what I assume you are doing) is a lot.<strong> If you do decide to do this, I would keep it to WP only.</strong> I think it is too early but I would understand doing it as long as you didn't throw another bachelorette party in November or December.
Posted by HandBanana[/QUOTE]

Also, I disagree with this. An invitation isn't a summons and I think it's fine to invite friends outside of the WP -- just don't be upset if some can't attend!

Meegles4

I agree August is fine. A friend of mine did this (though it may have been September) and her wedding was in December. She wanted to do it at her lake cottage.

To HandB's point, you should prepare yourself for some declines if you're going for a full weekend. However, I don't think you have to limit it to just WP, unless that was your plan. I was not a BM in my friend's, and neither were several of the other ladies that came. While, yes, it's your b-party, many will just look at it as a fun girls weekend and if they have the time, they'll come. Of course, since this is your b-party, only invite people who are invited to the wedding. 

You could also make the option available for people to just come for part of it if the lake house is relatively easy driving distance. Some might choose to just go up for the day or for one overnight instead of two or something like that. I just don't think you have to limit who you invite just because you're making a weekend out of it. Guests will decide if they want to come, and how long they want to come.

JVillella

Thanks! His lake home is only a 45 minute drive away. I was not planning on a whole weekend. It would probably start Saturday afternoon.  Everyone will have the option to stay overnight Saturday if they choose to.

Maggie0829

Sounds fun!  If that is what you want to do then I say go for it.  Invite who you want and then have a blast with those that can come.

As for timing, I had my bach weekend in Florida in early April and I didn't get married until July.  It was just the best time that worked for me and my one BM who came with me.  So I say have the party when it works best for you and the others involved.

willywally5

I think it's fine.

pkontk

That sounds lovely.  And for a night away from home, as a guest I would be thrilled that we were staying at someone's lake house rather than paying for a hotel.  Have fun!