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Wedding Etiquette Forum

Just wondering...

So my fiance and I got engaged without a ring, mostly because it didn't really matter to me if I had "the ring" or not and also because it was a spontaneous proposal. But last night, FI planned this big romantic night and at the end of it gave me a beautiful ring. Come to find out, its actually his moms old engagement ring. She never wore it after getting married because it clashed with her rather large wedding band. So she gave it to FI to give to me. He got it cleaned and resized blah blah blah. My point is, is there a proper way to thank his parents for giving us the ring? It was extremely generous and I felt very overwhelmed with emotion when I found out the origin of the ring. It means so much to me and I'm just not sure if there is a right or wrong way to thank them for something like this.

Re: Just wondering...

  • There's no wrong way to show appreciation for something like that, just show thanks to the degree you feel is right.  Congrats on your engagement. 
  • I don't think there is an etiquette rule.  Personally, I did send a card to FI's mom (my center stone was a family heirloom on her side), and thanked her in person. 
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  • Okay, thank you! I didn't think there was a hard and fast rule, but his parents like things done a certain way so I wanted to make sure I wouldn't offend them by not doing something that was expected. If that makes sense haha.
  • I don't think there's anything in particular you have to do.  A nice thank you note would be lovely.  Treat her to lunch if you have that kind of relationship.  Whatever feels right and appropriate will be appreciated by her, I'm sure.
  • ITA with all of the above. A beautiful thank you note would be fabulous. I'm sure seeing you smile over the years when you look at the ring will also warm her heart Laughing
  • I would write a lovely thank you note. I'd also try to show appreciation through some kind of gesture that fits with your relationship. Could you cook a fabulous dinner and have his parents over to enjoy it? Get her a bottle of her favorite wine? I think you're on the right track--there is no "right or wrong," but I definitely would advise against giving an expensive or extravagant gift, as that may make her feel uncomfortable.
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  • How nice of your FMIL! I think a note telling her how much you like the ring and how thankful you are, would be wonderful:-)
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