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Announcing Bride and Groom
What is the proper way to annouce the bride and groom at the reception??
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Re: Announcing Bride and Groom
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe I think is the old fashioned way of doing it, but this is one of those things that isn't going to offend your guests if you choose to do it another way.
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[QUOTE]I feel like if we were announced as Mr. and Mrs. HisLastName people would assume that I was taking FI's last name when we have pretty much told our friends and family I am not which might confuse them... What are other ways people announce the bride and groom?
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
Completely agree. My advice, just do first names since your names are not changing.
Op, you can announce yourselves however you want. Traditional way, a way you are comfortable, or skip it if you are uncomfortable with it.
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[QUOTE]I think technically you're still the Mrs. His Last Name even if you don't change your name. They can still announce you as the "Mr. and Mrs." and it will be correct even if you don't drop your maiden name.
Posted by zingaro1000[/QUOTE]
Actually you're not "technically" Mrs. His Lastname if you don't actually change your last name. People will probably still call you that, but it's not your technical last name.
OP, if you don't want to confuse people by saying Mr. and Mrs. His Lastname, you can just have the DJ say something like "here's the [happy/beautiful/etc] couple, Jane and John!!" And then you dance in. No one will probably notice what the announcement is.
[QUOTE]Would it be weird if they announced Mr. HisLastName and Mrs. HerLastName if I plan to keep my birth name? Or is that weird?
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
<div>i would not be introduced as mrs hislastname because that is never going to be my name. </div><div>
</div><div>and everyone in attendance at my wedding would be offended/confused/giggling if anyone called me "mrs". it's just not me.</div><div>
</div><div>i'm not sure what you do in instances where you're not changing your name. does there have to be an announcement?</div>
[QUOTE]Would it be weird if they announced Mr. HisLastName and Mrs. HerLastName if I plan to keep my birth name? Or is that weird?
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
Nope, not weird at all. You can just preface it with "let's welcome the newly weds..."
Our current joke is that when FI proposed I said I'd be honored to make him Mr. Dr. Myfirstname Mylastname.
I worked too hard for the PHD and the books published under this name to change it now!
[QUOTE]I think that would be weird, I know people who have kept their last name, and even still at the wedding they were announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith, don't ruffle any feathers and be particular, I would raise a major eyebrow if you were introduced with different last names, I would kind of think... "then what was that ceremony I just sat through?"
Posted by scurtis07[/QUOTE]
Huh? It's a waste of your time to go to a wedding when the woman doesn't change her name? Being introduced by a name that is not your own is ridiculous and confusing.
We were not introduced because we had the ceremony in the same room as the dinner and we just sat down after exchanging vows, but if we did have an introduction it would have just been "Fang & H."
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Announcing Bride and Groom : Huh? It's a waste of your time to go to a wedding when the woman doesn't change her name? Being introduced by a name that is not your own is ridiculous and confusing. We were not introduced because we had the ceremony in the same room as the dinner and we just sat down after exchanging vows, but if we did have an introduction it would have just been "Fang & H."
Posted by fangsiting[/QUOTE]
I have no problem with people keeping their own names, but I do think it's odd to be introduced into the reception with different names. I'm not really sure why, it just seems odd to me. You could always just be introduced by first names only, or even just "bride and groom".
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Announcing Bride and Groom : Huh? It's a waste of your time to go to a wedding when the woman doesn't change her name? Being introduced by a name that is not your own is ridiculous and confusing. We were not introduced because we had the ceremony in the same room as the dinner and we just sat down after exchanging vows, but if we did have an introduction it would have just been "Fang & H."
Posted by fangsiting[/QUOTE]
<div>I agree, this is a pretty appalling point of view. FI knows that even if I do end up changing my name (still haven't decided if I'm keeping mine, adding his, or switching to his), there's no way we'll be introduced as Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast. We're going to do, the bride and groom (or the newlyweds) MyFirst and HisFirst. </div>
[QUOTE]I would raise a major eyebrow if you were introduced with different last names, I would kind of think... "then what was that ceremony I just sat through?"
Posted by scurtis07[/QUOTE]
Phew! I'm thanking my lucky stars that my marriage is 100% valid because I made the choice to take my husband's name. To think that a bride would ever waste her guests' time by having them sit through a ceremony when she had no intention of changing her last name!!! ::eyeroll::
Unless I'm quite mistaken, a marriage is about the union of two people, not two names. You shouldn't make such ignorant comments.
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[QUOTE]I think that would be weird, I know people who have kept their last name, and even still at the wedding they were announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith, don't ruffle any feathers and be particular, I would raise a major eyebrow if you were introduced with different last names, I would kind of think... "then what was that ceremony I just sat through?"
Posted by scurtis07[/QUOTE]
Seriously? And here I was thinking that marriage was about the union between two people. I don't remember marriage requiring the changing of names. In some countries and cultures, there is a social but not a legal name change, but I think those marriages are still valid and the weddings worth attending.
[QUOTE]I think that would be weird, I know people who have kept their last name, and even still at the wedding they were announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith, don't ruffle any feathers and be particular, I would raise a major eyebrow if you were introduced with different last names, I would kind of think... "then what was that ceremony I just sat through?"
Posted by scurtis07[/QUOTE]
Uh, the point of the ceremony was to, you know, get married. What a ridiculous statement. I can't imagine why anyone would be announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith when she's not going to be Mrs. Smith.
To the poster who asked about being introduced as Mr. Smith and Mrs. Jones -- that IS kind of weird because most people who keep their own names choose to go by Ms., not Mrs. But if you want Mrs., go ahead.
We were announced something like: "...for the first time as a married couple, Jane Smith and John Doe."
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Announcing Bride and Groom : I think that would be weird, I know people who have kept their last name, and even still at the wedding they were announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith, don't ruffle any feathers and be particular, I would raise a major eyebrow if you were introduced with different last names, I would kind of think... "then what was that ceremony I just sat through?"
Posted by scurtis07[/QUOTE]
1955 called. It wants you to come home.
And ditto Tide's "For the first time as a married couple, John Smith and Jane Doe!"
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[QUOTE]I thought that Mrs. implied married and Ms. implied unmarried regardless if the woman takes her husbands last name or keeps her own...
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
I was always under the impression that Mrs. means married, Miss is unmarried, and Ms. can be anything, which is why most people use it if they don't know someone. That way they won't be assuming a woman is married or not, and won't have to deal with the awkwardness of being wrong.
[QUOTE]I thought that Mrs. implied married and Ms. implied unmarried regardless if the woman takes her husbands last name or keeps her own...
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
Ms. was originally supposed to just be the equivalent of Mr. -- an honorific for a woman that had nothing to do with marital status. But unfortunately it never really caught on -- way too many women way too happy about becoming a Mrs. who didn't want to give up that badge of honor (yes, that is sarcasm). It's still used that way in a business sense and it's the usual title used in business situations, but not so much socially.
Socially, it's typically used for women who are single, divorced, or married and kept their own names. And there are some people do use it for women across the board.
I've never actually met a married woman who kept her own name who chooses to go by Mrs. I'm sure that some exist, but it's not the norm.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Announcing Bride and Groom : I was always under the impression that Mrs. means married, Miss is unmarried, and Ms. can be anything, which is why most people use it if they don't know someone. That way they won't be assuming a woman is married or not, and won't have to deal with the awkwardness of being wrong.
Posted by qwerty777[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY!
We're being introduced at the reception as...
"the newlyweds...jen and don"
I will be taking his last name, but I think this sounds more modern and "us" then the traditional "mr. & mrs. newlastname"
It's not even intelligent enough to be offensive.
I just wasn't sure if it was appropriate to say .. Mr Jeremy and Jessie Last name or if you should say Mr Jeremy and Mrs Jessie Last name?
JennaV.. What back street song? I am still trying to figure out what song we will be entering into.. I kinda want something funny and cute.