Several people have offered to throw us different types of showers. We'll be having a couples shower and then my FSIL is throwing me what she called a "Panty Party" lol I know I shouldn't invite the same people to more then one shower but I have several close friends that I feel would have a blast with this "Panty Party" but my FI and I are also very close to their husbands as well... and want them to be at the couples shower. So my question is could I ask which one they'd rather attend? Or would that be rude in someway? Should I try to figure out some way to choose myself? Thanks for the help ladies