Guest List Question

Miles2Go

(XP to my local board)I am in the process of addressing my invitations. I noticed on facebook that my cousin is moving, so I sent her an email asking for her new address. She replied with her name, her boyfriend's name, and her new address. This is a cousin I don't see all that often. I've never met the boyfriend, have no idea how long they have been together, have no idea if they live together, and am sure they are not engaged. I was not planning on inviting any of my cousin's significant others (unless I've met them and actually know them). So here is the issue: It is apparent that she is expecting her BF to be invited. Do I send an email now saying something like "Although we would love to be able to let everyone bring a guest, we just can't accommodate dates for all our guests because of space and money....etc" or do I just let it go?I'm kind of inclined to send the invite to just her and only deal with it if she says something about him not being invited. What would you do?

banana468

I'll C&P my response from the local: Are you sure that she's not living with the BF? I'd also ask her how long they've been together. If she's a fly by night dater then it's one thing to say now. If this is serious, I think you may be making a large mistake. I met DH's family when we were together for under six months but I was invited as his girlfriend to a cousin's wedding. If you omit the sig others, you may be omitting future spouses. I'd use the rules that you establish for your friends in relationships for your cousins as well. And anyone living with the sig others should be invited with that person. If you know someone is in a well-established relationship, please don't exclude the partner just because you haven't met the other person. If that's the case, what would you do if the shoe is on the other foot and your cousin says, "I didn't invite you with your husband because you never invited my FI to your wedding so he never got to meet the two of you."? To add, it may be presumptuous of her to add the BF but if they're living together, how serious they are isn't for you to decide.