Destination Wedding or Elope

njsaube

My finance and I want to do a destination wedding and honeymoon in one- we know we don't want a traditional ceremony and reception where we live. The problem is, we would like for it to be just the two of us, and both of our families are planning on coming along. Neither of us would mind if that's the case, however my family would be able to afford the trip, and his would not. I can't let my family go if his doesn't, it's just not fair to him. Any advice or suggestions? Thank you!!!

J&K10910

Can you pay for his family's trip?

tidetravel

Is there any way you could cover the cost of a few close family members on his side?

lauralaur

If you want it to be just the two of you then why not elope by yourselves? Or you could do a simple JOP wedding with a dinner including your parents afterwards and then go on a fabulous honeymoon. Or, do you have the finances available to perhaps help his family with the plane ticket?

J&K10910

Wait, you said "both of our families are planning on coming along."  How are they planning on paying for it?  Do they not realize you're doing a destination wedding?

danieliza1127

Well you have some options.  #1 - You can create a small guest list of people to invite, send invitations, and those that can come do and those that can't don't.  That way at least you were fair.  #2 - You can tell your family and his that you're just going by yourselves and would prefer that no one else come along.  #3 - You could invite just your parents and his parents and if his can't afford to come, you and he could pay for them yourselves.  #4 - You could go to the JOP or courthouse with your parents and his parents, get married, and go have a nice dinner afterwards.  Then go on your honeymoon.  I'm sure there are more options, but these come to mind.

wadingmoose

Elope.

njsaube

Thanks for all your suggestions!!!! I'll share these ideas with my fiance... thanks again!