Bridal Shower on a Saturday??

humblebtuna

I have a little dilemma... I'm living in Hawaii, but my family is throwing me a bridal shower in Pennsylvania, where I'm from. My groom’s family is from NJ and I have friends (and bridal party) in CT and MD that I really want at the shower. I told my mom that one of the two requests I had was that we have the shower on a Saturday to accommodate the out of town guests- knowing that they'll have work the following Monday.She seems to think that no one will come to the shower bc they're going to have work on Saturday. As for the majority of my friends and family- I don't see this as being true.My mom went so far as to tell me that everywhere was booked for weddings on Saturdays- however, my sister says this isn't the case and that she found a location that had rooms available.I know they're paying for it, but since it's my wedding, and because I'm putting in the distance and really would like to have my out of town friends and future family there, I feel like I should have a say! Thoughts on this?

KelsieElaine

Saturday makes sense to me. What about on a Sunday?

TiDa2009

Generally, because it's a shower and you aren't supposed to plan your own, you wouldn't get a say.  But, you have a good point about the Saturday and OOT guests.  All you can do is suggest it and tell your mom why it makes sense.  If she chooses not to take your advise, then you don't have it on a Saturday.  Not much more you can do. HTH.  Good luck.

banana468

Almost every bridal shower I've attended was on a Saturday.  I prefer them to Sundays.  The room issue shouldn't matter.  Unless you're having a huge shower (please don't) the room used would be much smaller than one for a wedding reception. 

ootmother2

All the showers I've attended were on a Saturday.You really don't get a say but this seems pretty common sense to me.

lauralaur

I think if you're coming all the way from HI for this shower and it makes a difference in the attendance of your bridesmaids and future in-laws that yes, you should get a say.

humblebtuna

Right- the only reason I DON'T want it on the sunday is because I would like to give my OOT friends and family a better chance of coming to it, considering they're like 1.5-3.5+ hours away.I'm not planning it at all... I just had two request to accomodate our guests- this and an vegetarian entree for my vege friends (ie pasta). And actually... Saturday is worse for ME because I'm flying in the day before and will be majorly jetlagged. I'm thinking about my guests.

mouse10031978

Mine is on a Saturday and I have been to several that were on Saturdays.  If a venue is an issue, have it at someone's house. 

smlong007

I think every shower I've ever been to was on a Saturday because of OOT guests.  Mine is on a Saturday.  I know brides aren't suppose to have input, but my BMs sat down with me when they decided to plan it and we made sure we had a date that worked well for our schedules and FI and I's moms.

Sparkette19

Saturday makes sense to me too. However, all you can do is put in the suggestion. It's not up to you to make that call. If you are that upset about it, politely decline the offer for the bridal shower.

tenofcups4me

THat's odd. What's her problem with Saturday? I'd say the ones I attend seem to be pretty evenly divided between Saturday and Sunday, but you've got a good reason for Saturday so I can't imagine why she's making it an issue.

humblebtuna

I guess I'm a bit upset. I mean, she blatently lied, saying she couldn't get a venue on that date. My sister is actually throwing the event, but is pre-occupied studying for the bar exam (done next week). My mom took it upon herself to do the planning.She doesn't tend to listen to peoples advice EVER. I don't want a say in anything about this except these 2 minor things. She a hardhead, so if she wasn't paying attention, she won't admit it. And as for declining the shower... I'm already dishing out $700 in travel costs to even be there for it.

banana468

Well, only you know how to call your mother's bluff.  You can say something about the day of the week but ultimately is it worth it?