Shower Invites

AngelaLin78

I am having a small wedding - just inviting immediate family, aunts and uncles and close friends.  Is it acceptable to invite my cousins to my shower?  I would love to share this exciting time with me, but if I begin inviting cousins, it will almost double my entire list.  I have read to only invite the wedding guests to the shower (this would be a very small shower without the cousins).  I want to include them as much as I can but I don't want to do the impolite thing.  Thanks!!

Mrs.B6302007

I have read to only invite the wedding guests to the showerThere's your answer.

anna.oskar

If you invite people to pre-wedding activities like showers, they should be invited to the wedding as well.

Night_Sprite

This implies they're good enough to give you presents, but not attend the ceremony. Not okay.

ffmaid

No only those invited to teh wedding may be invited to the prewedding parties. Otherwise the message that you send is that they are good enough to get you a gift but you do not actually like them enough to have them be there at your wedding One of the trade offs of a small wedding is small or no prewedding parties

aimerzkd214

You should not invite people to the shower that are not invited to the wedding.  It would really suck to be important enough to be invited to the shower so the bride gets more gifts but not be important enough to be invited to the wedding. IMHO.

nda_roxybabe

You'll look gift grabby if you do that.

Samantha Durange

like all PP's said only invite people to the shower that are invited to the wedding

banana468

You're having a small wedding so that also means you're having a small shower.   The only exception is if you're having a very small DW with an AHR.  The guests at the AHR can be invited to a shower.

Lizrox

I know how you feel when you say you want everyone to be there (I come from a huge mormon family) but simply can't because the cost is ridiculous. I probably wouldn't invite them because (although you aren't in that mindset) like everyone else said, it looks a little "gimme gimme" even though you aren't trying to be that way. Just send them announcements!

aimerzkd214

What does AHR stand for?

banana468

AHR is an At Home Reception.

danieliza1127

The only people that should be invited to the shower are people that are also going to be invited to the wedding.  No matter whether that means you have a small shower or no shower at all.