Unofficial after party?

jacklyndemar

We want to have an after party at a bar in town, but we can't afford to foot the bill for everyone, we just want to invite everyone who still wants to party to join us.  How can we do that and still let everyone know that we just forked over a ton of cash for the wedding, the drinks at the bar are on them?

CubsGirl05

You could say "We're planning on going to this place afterwards and would love if everyone could join us"  

Hello Sunshine

You can't "announce" this or formally invite people unless you plan to pay the tab. The best way to do it is to have a few people casually spread the word AT the reception (near the end, when everyone is all wound up), "hey we're all going to ______ for a few more drinks, bride and groom are coming too, you should join us".

arbolita

I've mentioned to some friends where we're going to hang out after the reception, and I think we're going to rely on them/the bridal party to spread the word as things are winding down at the end of the reception.

ac_in_dc

I'm doing that with my wedding, too.  People congregate at the bar after a lot of the weddings I've been to. I'll probably just have the DJ make an announcement at the end of the wedding, and spread the word informally as well.

bbyckes

Word of mouth.  I think that you probably shouldn't formally invite everyone, but let it get around through the bridal party and parents, etc. that you're going to so-and-so afterward.  I think they wil understand that this is not a "hosted" event.

callmedra

We just did this. We werent going to make an announcement, just word of mouth, but the DJ did end up announcing it and it was fine. No one there expected us to pay. In fact, people had bought us drinks before we even got there.

danieliza1127

Don't send out invitations or put anything in writing.  Just go around during the reception and verbally tell people that you're going to xyz bar to keep partying and if they want to join, they are welcome to. 

jacklyndemar

Thanks everybody, word of mouth it is!  Good luck to you all!!!

scoetto

I have it on our website under "Wedding events" or something. It says where we'll be after (the hotel bar) and gives all the info (address, phone number, etc). At the bottom of that it says "this event will not be hosted". I think that's ok.

buttaflai

We didn't say anything. It was our guests who initiated to close down the bar! Our party ended at 1AM, but we kept it going.

dentonjulia

We are doing the same thing. We included the information on our website as "Post Reception Pub Party" and said this... "Being that we won't want the party to stop, we will be heading down to a cute local pub. All are welcome! While we will not not be financially sponsoring this part of the night, we will be providing transportation for all to the pub and back to their lodging at the end of the night. Additionally, for those who are out of party juice, we will be providing separate transportation from the XXX Inn to your lodging. The bus will first stop at the XXX Resort and finally at the XYZ Inn which is about 5 minutes down the road."In addition, we include a bit more formal translation of this same info on the Schedule of Events info in our formal invitation package. Hope this helps!

jhow213

I'm posting info about our after party on our website. I like the idea of just informally spreading the word at the end of the reception/having the DJ announce it, but most of my guests are coming from out of town, so barely anyone will know how to get to the after party without directions. I don't want to spend the last hour of our reception giving people directions, so I'll post it on the website and print out some direction cards to leave for people on their way out of the reception.

erikalaine

I was recently at a wedding and the groom got on the mic at the end of the evening and announced that he and bride would be going to such and such bar and if you would like to continue to party then meet them there.