Escort Card Names

kerryben

For couples that aren't married or the wife did not change her name, how do you handle escort cards?  Can they be on the same one still?

wdc*bride

Sure, just put her name first, and his name on the second line.We're only doing separate escort cards because they signal the guest's chosen entree to the waiters.

kerryben

Does it matter if one is the "plus one" that was invited?  Would they expect to look under the man's name if he was the invited guest?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

I know people say it's okay to have couples on the same card, but I don't think it's technically proper.I've always seen it done that married couples are on one card, unmarried have their individual cards. Then they don't have to wonder whose card to look under, etc. I'd say if you still plan to keep them on the same card, I would be universal about the plan and tell your host couple or wait staff or whoever what the plan is so they can direct your guests how to look. (it's a little awkward to explain to them that it's under the invited guest's name - if I was the "and guest" in that situation, I would feel odd)Know what I mean?

January Bride

I think this is a touchy subject that can vary by individual.  If you're at all worried about it, I'd just have every person at your wedding with their own card, even though it is not necessarily "correct" (we did this to avoid problems). I did not take H's name when we were married, but we have been to several weddings since where our one escort card was made out to "Mr. and Mrs. X".  I was fine with this, because although I am Jen Y or Ms. Y, I am his wife, so if someone wants to call me Mrs. X I get what they are talking about.  It is not my name, but I am not offended by it at all.  However, some might be offended at this, so I would either put them on the same card as "Mr. X and Ms. Y" or give them separate cards.Good luck!

ShanaJune2010

I've been to a lot of weddings with FI before we got engaged but were obviously in a serious relationship. All the escort cards had both our names on them. I think even at weddings for my friends, my name may have been first on the card but I can't remember for sure.Couples will know where to find their card. If I can't find it under my name, I just look under his. I actually think it would be weird to have separate cards, unless of course because of the pre-selected meal thing. (All the weddings I've gone to have had table side choices, which I guess is the norm around my area.)