Shower Question--again sorry

cjcj05

Who decides what type of shower it is.  The bride and groom want it to be couples and the person giving it is complaining about it.  This is a sister giving it for her brother and future sister-in-law.  This would be a family affair with mostly adults older than the bride and groom.Thanks!!!!

zippityb

The person hosting decides the shower.

kat112

The hosts decides. It's nice if they can take into account the bride's opinion, but in the end, if they're paying for it, they get the final say so. Sorry.

danieliza1127

Well ideally the person hosting would offer to host and then plan what the bride and groom want, but if the host won't do that then it's up to the bride and groom to either go with the flow or just decline the shower.

georgia_bride09

The host decides, however, if I were the hostess I would consult the bride (or bride and groom in this case) to see what their preference is.

ffmaid

The hostess or host determines what a party is. The honored guests can only accept or decline. The hostess (sister in  this case) gets full say on what sort of party she can and will host the honroed guest (bride) can either accept graciously or decline she may not say but i want a different sort of party  

cjcj05

Thanks ladies.  I am the mother-of-the-groom inbetween the groom and his sister.  Trying to make everyone happy as most mothers do and just making my life miserable.Technically I am paying for the shower and will do most of the work because the groom's sister lives out-of-town but her name is on the invitation.Funny thing is most of the people invited don't know what a stock the bar party is.Thanks!!!

cjcj05

I want to do what the bride and groom want but my daughter does not--family tension you got to love it. Thanks!!!!

tlv204

Yeah I say you get to pick, and it's nice of you to want to do what the bride and groom want.  Why should the sister get such a big say if she's not even really planning it? I say tell her if she wants a girl shower to pay for it herself.  I do understand family drama, but you're the mama!! In my world, what you say goes.