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Flower Girls and Wedding Receptions

izz05izz05
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Hi All,I have a quick question for you, and hope you can help settle a dispute.If you are having an adult only reception, but you have a flower girl, is the flower girl invited to the reception?  Lets say the wedding is 2 1/2 hours away from where everyone live, and the flower girl is the only niece from both sides of the family.Thanks
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Re: Flower Girls and Wedding Receptions

  • ffmaidffmaid
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    ryone invited to the wedding must be invited to the reception so if you have a fg at the wedding she is invited to the reception  
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  • izz05izz05
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    My husband’s family can’t understand why I am upset.  We travel 2 ½ hours to my sister-in-laws wedding with our 3 ½ year old daughter to participate as a flower girl, and she could not attend the reception (I couldn’t either because I had to take care of her).  We got there Thursday night (wedding was Saturday) and were informed that when they said adults only it also meant the flower girl.  I was so in shock.  This is the only niece (or nephew) from both sides and she is very well behaved.  If I had know that she was not going to be welcomed at the reception I would have told them, thank you so much but she would not be attending so we can attend.  I would have left her for the weekend back home and enjoyed the weekend with my husband.  The sad thing is that my daughter is sad about it, the first question she asked me was “am I going to be able to stay for dinner at auntie… weddings?”  (she is a flower girl for another wedding)  she was so sad that she had to leave, it broke my hart. 
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    izz - When you did the RSVP cards for this wedding did you write all 3 of you or just RSVP for 2? That seems odd taht it would not have been known before the day of.  
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  • 111Kate111111Kate111
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    OMG that is terrible! I can't believe they would do that to you- after you traveled all that way. I hope your Husband/FI gives his family a piece of his mind. That was terribly rude and I would think twice about attending their events for a while. You should have not given them a gift either! :)
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    Yeah, that's BS.
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  • julie_abeillejulie_abeille
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    That is incredibly rude. They basically used your daughter so that they could have cute pictures and the whole "awww" factor. She absolutely should have been allowed to attend the reception.
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  • AstinB2BAstinB2B
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    :(   Makes me wanna hug your little girl.     I say you have a wedding, ask that woman to be in the wedding party and then after the wedding say "Oh, I'm sorry, this is an all cool people reception.  No douche bags allowed"  lol...I kid.  I can't remember exactly who the bride was, your sister or your Fi/Dh's sister (I have horrible short term memory)   
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  • AstinB2BAstinB2B
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    Okay, your husband's family.  lol...my bad.    
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