am i wrong to feel offeneded?

elizabeth98

My shower was on Sunday and my FI and I had a great time. Great people, food and fun. However my aunt and grandma showed up late and proceeded to argue with my mom and other aunts that they find it rediculous that i am being thrown a shower when i have lived with my FI for 6 years. I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinions but I found this to be pretty rude. Now there is a small family feud going and I just want everyone to calm down. I am confused as to why they came if they feel so strongly about it. All I know is that I live my life to the best of my ability. I refuse to allow the negativity to bring me down. I just wondered if anything like this has happened to anyone else at their shower?

lpstl

Nope, you aren't wrong. What they did is jacked up.

lmills730

ya, thats ridiculous...just because you are living together does not mean that you can't have a shower. Nowadays because this is more common, people just get more creative with personalized gifts instead of all kitchen/household items.as you said, if they felt that strongly about it, they probably shouldn't have shown up!

MissSarah786

Tim and I have lived together for 3 years before we got married, but in my family it's kind of expected to live together. I wouldn't let it bother you. It's fine that a shower was thrown for you and pretty rude of them to argue while at the shower, but it's their problem, not yours.

ootmother2

You're not wrong.The choice to live with your DI has nothing to do with your showers.Ignore them and stay our of it.  They are being petty and don't let them get you down!

mocha beans

I find it pretty rude of them to bring their disagreements about it up at your shower.  If they don't like it, fine, but discuss it outside of the shower.I too would be confused about why they bothered to come if they disagree with it so much.

ggmae

Wow, that was very rude of them and I'm sorry that people aren't getting along. You have the right attitude though. Just stick with it and cross your fingers that it blows over. Some people are just so childish, even as adults!

elizabeth98

thanks guys i also apologize for misspelling "offended" in the subject line. i promise i know how to spell.

stina93446

Not wrong at all. They should have kept it to themselves.

Puppylove*85

Wow, I'm sorry that those family members treated you so rudely.  I would be offended if I was treated that way.  If you want to address the issue with them, I would send a letter explaining that you respect their opinions but are hurt that they felt the need to embarass you at your own shower.  You are right, if they felt a shower was inappropriate they didn't have to attend.  But since they did choose to attend, they should've acted politely.  Good for you for not allowing their hang-ups to get in the way of your happiness.