Married couples in Bridal Party

Mrs.McGuire

What's the etiquette regarding couples who are married in the BP? Example BM is married to a GM or the Best Man. Is it unproper etiquette to have them walk with other people in the bridal party other than their spouse?Helping a friend out.Thanks!

whitsy

We have a married couple in the WP, and they're walking together. I don't guess it's unproper etiquette, but is there a reason they can't walk together?

whitsy

Wow, your bad grammar totally influenced mine, the word is improper, not unproper.

ootmother2

Usually, the maid of honor walks out with the best man.I don't think it's carved in stone, just the way it's usually done.They are walking down an aisle, not having sex so I think it's fine for them to walk with someone other than their spouse

weddnovice

What if the improper pairing causes an illicit affair?  You couldn't have that on your conscience could you?  All that walking down the aisle together - what if their shoulders touch and illegitimate children are born? Don't risk it honey....

Ssaaraahh

My MoH is married to DH's groomsman. She was escorted down the aisle by both the best man and her husband (we had uneven numbers in the wedding party so it worked out nicely that way) and posed for some pictures with the best man and other pictures with her husband. If you're only asking them to walk together, that is ok. But, I'd give them a chance to pose for some pictures together, and if you have a wedding party dance (I hate wedding party dances, but if you do have one....) let the husband and wife dance together.

banana468

Yeah, if DH and I can get a photo it would be sweet.I don't "get" BP dances either.  We didn't have one and I'm glad that they're fading from fashion.  However if they have one and we aren't asked for our opinion on them, I'm keeping quiet. 

crfische

Oh man, we've had this issue eleventy times in our circle. I find it rude when people don't just let them walk with their SO. Who cares what order people go down in. We had 2 married couples and a dating couple in our wedding, we all walked down together. Most of the people that I've talked to in a wedding party who arent allowed to walk with their SO's usually think the bride is just being passive aggressive. True or not? I don't know, but that's what has been said behind their backs.

lpstl

We had a married couple, but they were both on the grooms side. I had the wife walk down the aisle with a gay man that was on my side. I'm sure this solution can be easily applied to your situation. If not, I'm willing to rent out one of my gay friends for a very reasonable fee. It's extra if you want them in drag though.

Duckyoflove13

I don't know if ours will be walking together or not, I'm sure we'll pair up most of them though. We haven't decided. See the Officiant is married to one of my BM'sThe Best Man is an ex of one of my BMsMy MOH is married to one of the GMsand one of my BMs is married to a GM...then there's the other two or three in the party...I'm lost now lol....Sorry if you are too.

Kati0105

See the Officiant is married to one of my BM'sThe Best Man is an ex of one of my BMsMy MOH is married to one of the GMsand one of my BMs is married to a GMI can't decide if this sounds more like a difficult math problem or an episode of an ensemble sitcom.

Duckyoflove13

Some days I start looking for the cameras.If it's math I'm out!

wdc*bride

I think it would be a slight to my MOH to have the BM walk down with his wife.I don't get this at all.  That seems immature of her, if true.  Why don't you just not have the guys walk in, and have all the guys start up front?

danieliza1127

We had a married couple, MOH and her husband was a groomsman.  Even though they didn't line up together, we let them walk down the aisle together and then go take their spots.  No big deal.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

We have two married couples. One is FI's BM, and she's my BM...so they're not walking together. She is walking with our little nephew because he gets really shy. Other married couple - one is a BM and one a GM, so they're walking together. When we announce them at the reception, the Best Man/BM will be introduced together. We'll rearrange the couples to make it work.

MJsGirl09

Our Best Man is married to one of the BMs.. he is walking with the MOH as Best Men usually do. I dont think it matters that they are married and not walking together.

AnneAndJJ

Honestly, they're married, let them walk down together. I was going to be in a friends WP as a BM, and my boyfriend is the best man. We were going to be allowed to walk together, even though it would throw out the order. I'm not a BM now, so it doesn't matter, but I'm just saying. (And I too don't like WP dances. It makes it even more annoying for members of the WP's dates, who have already had to spend the entire day alone.)

amendolv

Reality is the BM, MOH, GM and entire Bridal party are there as roles of honor. You are basically stating they are some of the most important people in your life. If they are more worried about walking, sitting and lining up together they, not the bride, have issues...called insecurity. Do they have to walk eachother to the bathroom too?

banana468

OK. In defese of those who would prefer towalk with their spouses, just keep in mind that for some WP members, they feel as if they have to act as a couple with the person they are paired with. Acting as comfortable member of a unit may feel very odd to a WP member when 1, the person isn't paired with his/her sig other and 2, may feelweird when the sig other is walking in front or behind.